Wednesday, January 23, 2008





So many times - talking about it does something special.

The issue seems to be massive.
A turmoil of emotions.

I sit with someone and ask gentle questions.
Usually I get the same comments.
Same rush of repeats.
Emotions are high and the brain is working like a washing machine.
The whirl does not help.

Eventually the gentle questions help to focus a bit.
Then the humans involved are talked about.
Transactions are retold.
The real issues are coming out of the injured soul.

Often there are no answers.
No resolution - at least right now.
But talking - it could be called 'reflecting' - does the trick.

I work with so many front line workers who have trauma coming at them regularly. They are working with human lives which have little capacity to manage their complex relationships.
Often, sometimes in the middle of the night, they lend an ear.
They sweat emotions because as they are talking and supporting - there is uncertainty about how it will conclude. Will there be the threatened suicide. Will there be a repeat of the self harm. How will it conclude ................

Going to bed that night, these humans will either drift to sleep with some deep satisfaction or
........... the night will be a long and restless one.

The quote below is one of my most used. First time was in my third book called 'The Very Stinking Rolling Magazine Book'.
It is well worth a deep read and reflection.

You are beautiful
in whatever circumstances
Whatever you need to talk about - you are beautiful ........





Quote
“We become fully conscious
only
of what we are able to express to someone else.
We may already have had a certain inner intuition about it,
but it must remain vague
so long as it is unformulated,”


From the meaning of persons, by Paul Tournier.





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