Thursday, June 30, 2016

You have an UPSTREAM - I have an UPSTREAM

This is an example of one of the Blob Tree Materials found on 

You have an UPSTREAM
I have an UPSTREAM

As I facilitate learning for others as part of my mission -
I am learning from all the humans I encounter.
Disturbing - some of it.
As I encounter new experiences
discover more of my incompleteness
unfinished me.

In the 70’s I learned, started to learn, about TA.
Transactional Analysis - the best help I have discovered 
in terms of understanding behaviour and people in general.

Of course I have to put my own oxygen mask on first.
I need to discover more of myself to be able to in helping relationships with others.

I learned about the PARENT tapes within me.
Parents taped in my subconscious alongside other significant ‘parent’ type figures.
How, without knowing it, model the emotional behaviour of Parents -  all in the mix with my own experiences.

I learned how we are living recording machines.
AND most significant, alongside memories and audio visual recordings, we record feelings.
These stay with us through life and stay powerful influences until we grow up emotionally.
Never complete for me.
Never completely for anyone - I believe.
That is why I go on about BECOMING.
Becoming all that we can become - is a life journey.

We are all victims of those who have
loved us
failed to love us
have been unable to love us.
We all have a UPSTREAM.

When you share your feelings with me
When I share my feelings with you
It is an act of ultimate self-disclosure - self revelation.

The best book about TA is::
‘I’m OK - Your’e OK’ by TA Harris

My own book which very much comes out of my TA journey is::
'Blob Level Five' *
which is a about encouraging the development of 'whole person’ communication.
Building a wide repertoire of awareness and skills to help relationships and life itself. 

One way to develop emotionally is by sharing your inner life with others.
Why not join in with others by responding to my weekly questions project called ‘Becoming Questions.
You will find them on my website.

* 'Blob Level 5' is a book that helps the reader to grasp the different layers of communication that happens each time that we have a conversation. Starting with cliches and ending up with total openness. 
It provides a positive understanding of the need to express ourselves at a deeper level.
Each section is covered using illustrations, exercises, questions and places to make notes. 
Towards the end, it applies these ideas in the areas of bullying and spirituality. 
A quick and easy read that will change the way that you encounter others forever