Community is a safe place precisely because no one is attempting to heal or convert you, to fix you, to change you.

"Community is a safe place precisely because 

no one is attempting to heal
or convert you,
to fix you,

to change you.
Instead, the members accept you as you are.
You are free to be you.
And being so free, 

you are free to discard defenses, 

masks, disguises: 

free to seek your own 

psychological and spiritual health." 

M. Scott Peck

BHP