Tuesday, August 22, 2017
Hoping to have my first nights sleep tonight.
Had a tough 5 days with watery stingy eyes, rasping cough, sore throat & sleepless nights.
I had to depart to our lounge at night to ensure MrsBeautiful got some sleep.
Paracetamol are laughing to their bank - so are the cough medicine & throat soothing sweets.
The worst is my inner eyelids are bright red + 2 bloodshot eyeballs
AND I never get a cold !
Then this afternoon MrsBeautiful tripped out of our back door down the concrete steps cutting herself - knees hands & all shook up.
No broken wrists or bones as she did in 1999.
So I have been quiet keeping away from 121's and my Mac - so little to be said through lack of energy.
I have much to prepare for a busy end of year with hardly one Saturday/week-end free.
Hoping to have my first nights sleep tonight.
✅💲T🅰Y🅱eautiful✅
BHP
Monday, August 21, 2017
The 10 Commandments of Emotional Intelligence
The 10 Commandments of
Emotional Intelligence
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These 10 rules will help you make emotions work for you, instead of against you.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify emotions (in both yourself and others), to recognise the powerful effects of those emotions, and to use that information to inform and guide behaviour.
It begins with learning how emotions work, but it goes much further. Specifically, how do you start putting that knowledge into practice?
If you'd like to make emotions work for you, instead of against you, pay attention to the following "10 commandments."
I. THOU SHALT PONDER THY FEELINGS.
I. THOU SHALT PONDER THY FEELINGS.
Emotional Intelligence begins by learning to ask the right questions, like "What is my current mood, and how might that influence my decisions today?" or "What are my strengths and weaknesses?"
This is one way to begin building self-awareness, which will yield valuable insights that can be used to your advantage.
II. THOU SHALT LEARN FROM OTHER PERSPECTIVES.
II. THOU SHALT LEARN FROM OTHER PERSPECTIVES.
When listening to others, don't focus on right or wrong; rather work to understand how perceptions differ. That includes learning to take negative feedback, which can expose blind spots and lead to self-improvement.
III. THOU SHALT LEARN TO "PAUSE."
III. THOU SHALT LEARN TO "PAUSE."
"The pause" is as simple as taking a moment to stop and think before you act or speak. (But beware: while easy in theory, it's difficult to practice.)
Don't expect perfection. But practice consistently, and the pause will prevent you embarrassment and could save countless relationships.
IV. THOU SHALT PRACTICE EMPATHY.
IV. THOU SHALT PRACTICE EMPATHY.
Instead of judging or labeling others, work hard to see things through their eyes. Ask questions like, "Why does this person feel this way?" and "What's going on behind the scenes?"
Do this, and you'll enjoy a clearer understanding of the world around you, and build deeper, more connected relationships.
V. THOU SHALT PRAISE OTHERS.
V. THOU SHALT PRAISE OTHERS.
By focusing on the good in others, and then specifically telling them what you appreciate, you inspire others to be the best version of themselves.
VI. THOU SHALT APOLOGIZE.
VI. THOU SHALT APOLOGIZE.
"I'm sorry" can be the two most difficult words to say. But they can also be the most powerful.
Acknowledge your mistakes and apologize when appropriate, and you'll develop qualities like humility and authenticity, naturally drawing others to you.
VII. THOU SHALT FORGIVE.
VII. THOU SHALT FORGIVE.
Refusing to forgive is like leaving a knife in a wound--you never give yourself the chance to heal.
Instead of hanging on to resentment while the offending party moves on with his or her life, forgiving gives you the chance to move on, too.
VIII. THOU SHALT NOT FREEZE OTHERS IN TIME.
VIII. THOU SHALT NOT FREEZE OTHERS IN TIME.
Refuse the temptation to judge others too quickly, without considering context and extenuating circumstances. Remember that everyone has a bad day (or even a bad year).
Instead, make it a practice to consistently and honestly re-evaluate your relationships, and you'll be sure to get the most out of them.
IX. THOU SHALT CONTROL THY THOUGHTS.
IX. THOU SHALT CONTROL THY THOUGHTS.
When you experience a negative situation, you may won't have much control over your feelings. But by focusing on your thoughts, you can control your reaction to those feelings.
As the saying goes: "You can't stop a bird from landing on your head. But you can keep it from building a nest."
When you focus on your thinking, you resist becoming a slave to your emotions. Instead, you acknowledge those feelings and can then move forward in a way that's in harmony with your goals and values.
X. THOU SHALT NOT STOP LEARNING.
X. THOU SHALT NOT STOP LEARNING.
Emotional intelligence isn't about achieving perfection, or reaching a certain level of "EQ." It's about continuous learning and growth.
Yes, it's often when you've "mastered" one of these 10 commandments that you will make your greatest mistakes. But it is how you handle those mistakes that will determine how truly emotionally intelligent you are. ■
BHP
Sunday, August 20, 2017
Forgiving
..... #forgivness is giving up #hope
of ever having had a better past ....
of ever having had a better past ....
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Saturday, August 19, 2017
There is no love without self disclosure
...... hey
how are you ?
feeling?
Makes me think what is happening in your life to cultivate those feelings.
Have you some decisions to make?
Me ............ feeling tired now.
At peace - mainly.
If I had some strong emotions they would be there in my gut and in my head like toothache.
-Q-What do we think about when we have toothache?
-A-Toothache.
Our current pain can posses us and preoccupy us
so much that we cannot function well in other life areas.
So I feel sensitive about the week ahead because
I have stuff to prepare so I can love people.
I have decided to make my life and act of love.
I have decided that the best we can give another human is - love.
There is no love without self disclosure -
otherwise we are only giving the
surface, the crust, the mask and a performance.
Authentic love is self disclosure.
Real live is self disclosure.
Love is self disclosure.
Sometimes it hurts -it triggers deep emotions in myself.
Vulnerability I guess.
Hope you are getting to know yourself better.
A beautiful human waiting to be understood more .........
BHP
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