I ask a young woman why she is crying. She says someone told her yesterday she was unattractive. She said she has always felt unattractive. She had been struck by lightening yesterday
Sometimes we meet and interact with humans and there is conflict. Sometimes it is our interaction which is the last straw. Tears or in some cases more obnoxious behaviour, aggression and even violence sometimes.
Behaviour it seems to me is NOT only about the immediate. Often the damage has been done over the years or maybe a long time ago.
After the lightening we hear the delayed thunder.
I have worked with humans all my life who have, it is said, have 'behavioural problems'. Certainly I have experienced terrorized sleep all too often.
Once I remember Mrs Beautiful getting up in the middle of the night and being violently sick. This was all due to the tension I was living under and she was picking up the damage second hand. These were the living and working in East-end London years. Gangs. Mob violence. Professional crime. Professional violence. I shiver now at the thought.
After the lightening we feel the delayed thunder.
It is vital to look beyond the behaviour ..... I keep saying in blogs, in facilitation, in conversations.
To only feel the tears or see the tears is not enough.
The story is important the journey of the weeping human is all part of the behaviour and therefore our response. We need to be response-able. Respond with love no matter what.
"there is no such a thing as a difficult person, only difficult behaviour"
I need to think more about this as it is vital for life ............. that person I will next see weeping certainly at Greenbelt ........... and my own tears too.
