Saturday, September 28, 2013

A most powerful ACT beyond beyond - spiritual/emotional/beautiful.

The heroism of Antoinette Tuff reveals what's missing from politics

The way she talked down a gunman at her school, armed only with her faith, shows we needn't assume the worst in others
memorial
A memorial to victims of the shootings in Newtown, Connecticut. A school in Decatur, Georgia, faced the prospect of a similar tragedy. Photograph: Julio Cortez/AP
In January, when Barack Obama called for the US nation to put pressure on politicians to pass gun control legislation, he warned: "Every day we wait [the number of Americans who die at the end of a gun] will keep growing." Last Tuesday was set to be one of those days. While legislation lay orphaned in Congress, 20-year-old Michael Hill walked into Ronald E McNair Discovery Learning Academy in Decatur, Georgia, with an AK-47-style assault rifle, 500 rounds of ammunition and "nothing to live for".
With 870 children inside aged between five and 11 years and Hill confessing that he had not been taking his psychiatric medication, the nation was, in all likelihood, staring down the barrel of yet another horrific school shooting.
Luckily for everybody, Hill took as his hostage the school bookkeeper, Antoinette Tuff. What followed was an amazing illustration of calm and brinkmanship by Tuff – all recorded on her call to emergency services – during which she managed to successfully negotiate between Hill and the police.
"We're not going to hate you," she said, referring to him first as "sir" and later as "sweetie" and "baby". "My pastor, he just started this teaching on anchoring, and how you anchor yourself in the Lord," recalled Tuff, who said she was terrified. "I just sat there and started praying."
And so in between updates with the 911 dispatcher she shared her own travails with Hill, telling him about her divorce and disabled son, all the while reassuring him. "I love you. I'm proud of you. We all go through something in life. You're gonna be OK. Sweetheart. I tried to commit suicide last year after my husband left me." Eventually, while keeping police at a distance, she persuaded him to give up his weapons, lie on the floor and give himself up.
After the shootings in Newtown, Connecticut, left 20 children and six adults dead, Wayne LaPierre, the head of the National Rifle Association, insisted the incident was not evidence of the need for more gun control but more guns. "The only thing that stops a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun,'' he said.
Tuff's action shows neither guns nor guys are necessarily compulsory. A woman armed with emotional intelligence, immense poise and copious amounts of empathy can do the job and leave everybody alive.
This incident raises a number of policy issues beyond its own drama: the availability of guns, healthcare (Hill was off his medication because his Medicaid had expired) and mental health services (inadequate provision in the US makes prisons and jails the main facilities, effectively criminalising mental illness). But it also raises two broader cultural points.
First, politicians cannot legislate to ensure the existence of people such as Tuff. And even if they could it would be unreasonable to expect such heroism from anyone. They can, nonetheless, learn a great deal from her. For her generosity of spirit, capacity to humanise the potential shooter and ability to identify with him through her own vulnerabilities do tell us a great deal about what is lacking in our politics.
Our politics, particularly in an age of terror, austerity and growing inequality, is predicated on the basis that people are basically venal, selfish, dishonest and untrustworthy. The poor are assumed not to be looking for work but cheating on welfare; foreigners are assumed to be taking something from a culture rather than contributing something to it; public sector workers, like Tuff, are assumed not to be devoted to public service but a drain on our taxes. The disabled are assumed to be well. When we look at others, the default position in much of western political culture is not to see ourselves in them but to see a threat.
So Tuff's courage stands as the most dramatic illustration of the degree to which we are, and can be, so much more impressive than our politics suggests. Few can do what Tuff did in that moment. And yet many are driven by a similar spirit to help and serve and all have the wherewithal to identify with others.
Examples abound. Like the small working-class Appalachian town of Vicco, Kentucky (population 355), which voted for lesbian and gay equality in January; or Natasha Knotts, who met Hill at her husband's church and set about trying to be a maternal figure for him. "I don't have the papers, but I have the heart," she said.
Which brings us to the second point: religion. For it was in and through her faith that Tuff drew the strength to deal with the situation. That is what religion does for many people. It grounds them. It's the means by which they make sense of the world around them, their place in it and their relationship to others. For many it is the bedrock of their community and identity.
I'm not religious: I'm a lapsed agnostic. I used to not know and then just stopped caring. But I'm a liberal secularist. I believe religion has no role in the state and nobody, including the state, has the right to dictate to women what they should wear.
However, it has become fashionable, particularly among those who think themselves progressive in Europe, to disparage not just faith but the faithful (with particular disdain reserved for Islam). All too often mistaking incivility for satire, those who set themselves up as the arbiters of reason present religion as the source of the world's problems and the religious as its unquestioning dupes.
Emerging from a decade that pitted George Bush against Osama bin Laden to deadly effect, we should not be too surprised. People have done terrible things in the name of religion. From Pol Pot to the reign of terror following the French revolution, they have also done terrible things in the name of reason.
Leaving aside for a moment where ridiculing the religious leaves the contributions of Desmond Tutu, Martin Luther King, Trevor Huddleston, Bruce Kent, Harriet Tubman, Muhammad Ali, Gandhi and Malcolm X: where does it leave Tuff? A sucker or a saviour?
We can't all be that heroic. But we all deserve a political culture that assumes the best of us rather than pandering to the worst, and the space to find our best selves free from contempt, so long as we don't harm anyone else on the way.
The last word I will give to Tuff. As she hung up on the dispatcher and the police took Hill, she uttered through her tears: "Woo, Jesus."

Our first date at the Cavern Club Liverpool.


This little membership card is framed in my home office. 
I had been a member for a few years.
Beatles and all the 'beat groups' used to play there.
All were warm up acts for the Jazz bands at the top of the bill.

Tomorrow in 1961 was my first date with Mrs Beautiful-to-be.
The first date was me taking her to the Cavern Club in my little grey Morris Minor van.
We didn't see much of the bands as we were kissing all the time at the back.

You can tell is wasn't a lasting relationship!
Next week we will have been married for 49 years.
You know what that means?

It's not going to last - it's just one of those fleeting relationships ........




Are you a REACTOR ?


People sometimes get into our head. 
We feel upset/anger/hate maybe. 
What we feel we do not have to become. 
We can choose how to ACT not just REACT. 
We need to decide what kind of person 
we want to be and 
walk that way. 

You are beautiful. 
Choose a life of beautiful.

Friday, September 27, 2013

Some MUSIC here for you. 30+ minutes for you to listen


Some MUSIC here for you.
30+ minutes for you to listen as you do other things.
And love it.
Zack from Fortuna Records dropped in a couple of weeks ago 
and blessed the Brownswood Basement with an all vinyl selection of Middle Eastern gems. 
Mostly recorded in Israel but featuring musicians from all over the Middle Eastern region 
(Morocco, Turkey, Greece, Egypt)
 it highlights the amazing fusion of Arabic folk music with jazz, rock, funk and disco styles 
in the early 70s. 
Essential listening – pops, crackles, hisses and all!



◄◄ REW ► PLAY ▌▌PAUSE █▌STOP ►► FF




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U2 'Greetings from New York City to the good people of Iran...' Video


Last week, on a rooftop in New York City, the band recorded an acoustic performance of  'Sunday Bloody Sunday' - and dedicated it to democracy in Iran.


The track is part of ONE's campaign to harness the power of protest songs to demand action against extreme poverty at the G8 summit. 



Remember the amazing reaction to Sunday Bloody Sunday on the 360 tour?  
Every night it went out in support of the Green Movement that sprang from the 2009/10 Iran elections. The response from across the world - including in Iran - was phenomenal.



As the 2013 elections approached, the band were asked by Iranian human rights activists to contribute their music again.  
As Bono says, at the beginning of the performance, 
'Greetings from New York City to the good people of Iran...'



BONO -'we have to make a great U2 album.' VIDEO TV LAST NIGHT.


What Bono told Letterman last night about ONE, RED... oh, yeah, and that next U2 record. 

'People don't get excited about us being very good, who needs a new U2 album, there's loads of them out there.. we have to make a great U2 album.'

GREAT reflection from someone who was in the Nairobi WESTGATE MALL the day before the attack - Carlos Sanvee

GREAT reflection from someone who was in the Nairobi WESTGATE MALL the day before the attack - Carlos Sanvee, General Secretary, Africa Alliance of YMCAs


doveUntil you are directly involved or affected, you might not understand what a terror attack is. Imagine a six-year-old girl going to a recreation area at the mall, rejoicing, jumping around with her parent. Suddenly she is shot dead in cold blood... because someone decides they have power over her life... just like that!
I was in Westgate Mall for dinner at 10pm the night before the attack and I cannot begin to imagine what I would have done or what would have happened to me had it been Saturday morning that I was there. And yet the chance that I would have been at Westgate Mall that Saturday morning for one reason or other was equally very high.
Saturday 21 September was World Peace Day, but ironically that day a group of men and perhaps women chose to reign terror on innocent children, women and men in Nairobi, Kenya. Besieging the mall for three days, killing 62 people, and injuring 200 while over 60 still remain unaccounted for. The extremist Islamic group Al-Shabaab claims responsibility for the attack as a way of retaliation for Kenya’s military intervention in Somali since 2011. The Westgate Mall represents a vibrant cosmopolitan world in the heart of Nairobi, a melting point for many cultures and nationalities, a lifestyle that easily brings together hundreds of people for shopping, recreation and commerce on a daily basis, with Saturday drawing in even more people. Perhaps this understanding informed the choice of the Westgate Mall by the perpetrators of the inhuman act carried out in the name of God.
The reaction of Kenyans following this tragedy has been incredible. I have witnessed solidarity in action. More than 1 000 people rescued on the first day courtesy of anonymous rescuers. Some people lost their lives trying to save others... there was one story of a man who kept going back and he alone rescued close to 100 people. People of all colours, nationality and creed lined up to donate blood.
Kenyans, both in the country and the diaspora, and peoples of other nationalities donated money to support the cause, and within three days had raised more than USD700,000. There were piles of food and refreshment donations for the soldiers working to reclaim the Westgate Mall from the terrorists who had besieged it; for the news reporters working round the clock; for the many different volunteers at various points set up to support the rescue and recovery process. Kenyan politicians, who a few days before the tragedy had dissenting political views, came together and spoke in one voice against the terror and encouraged people to stand firm against the evil meted against the country.
This exemplified a reality of togetherness that Africa should be proud of. The barbaric action of the fundamentalists and whoever is behind them was intended to cause division and dissent. Instead, it brought a great sense of togetherness and oneness to the people of Kenya and other nationalities. During this time of anxiety I suddenly realised that ethnic, regional, political and nationality divisions simply melted away and the Kenyan nation stood as one and rose from the ashes of the Westgate Mall. I too forgot about my own nationality. I became Kenyan... I felt wholeheartedly African!
I share this article with deep reflection on my life. I realise that I am not better than those maimed or killed in Westgate Mall, or the families and friends of those affected who are mourning and hurting as a result of the heinous act on Saturday. There is no explanation of why me or why them. But these events have reinforced a vital life lesson: to live each day as if it was the last one and do all I can to be fair and just to all.
Every life is sacred and holy before God and therefore taking or maiming it, either by bullet, chemical attack, nuclear weaponry or by starving people through socio-economic policies equally exemplify acts of terrorism as these acts show no care or respect for the gift of life.
I affirm the position of the leadership of the Africa Alliance of YMCAs in over 20 African countries, in standing as one with the Kenyan at this very trying time.
By Carlos Sanvee, General Secretary, Africa Alliance of YMCAs

Thursday, September 26, 2013

Pip Wilson Youth Workers Training event OPEN TO ALL






Pip Wilson
When: Saturday 23rd November
Time: 10am - 4pm
Where: Rayleigh Parish Centre
Cost: £35 (plus booking fees)
Also Includes: Lunch and all refreshments

We are please to be hosting internation speaker and Beautiful human Pip Wilson.

We can see a persons behaviour but we cannot see their journey:
That is why Youth Work is fundamentally 'relational'.

That is why Youth Work is about getting close and discovering the persons journey, and understanding why that behaviour, and how we need to always to be raising our own awareness and skills to be an affective in helping the human being - to be a human BECOMING.

A day full of interaction, group work and involvement that will support your own development and growth as well as your understanding of the importance of relational youth work.

About Pip Wilson
Pip is a beautiful human person who became an adult when he was 40. His work has ranged from Urban Street Gangs, Hells Angels, special needs group work with humans with drug and alcohol issues and more. He has also been a charity CEO housing 172 young people in need with 150 staff and 200 volunteers. Pip has a far more scars than certificates! He believes that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. 

Pip is the author of several books and the famous "Blob Tree Tools, which can open up the hardest hearts, and is able to open up meaningful communication in all cultures and contacts.

He works freelance conducting group work/training/facilitation in the corporate and voluntary sectors. 

Pip year and is the uncomfortable, unese, dissatisfaction and daily refreshes the irritation. He believes that there is no such thing as a difficult person, only difficult behaviour.

For more information see our events booking page

UN SHED TEARS




IF we are not disclosing our feelings
we are hiding them.

We can so get used to hiding them
THEN 
we get used to being a different person 
than we really are
to people.
Only being who we really are
when we are on our own
*thought life
*last few minutes before we sleep.

We can only become fully aware
when we share ourselves
with another person/people.

I am not trying to push you into feeling vulnerable.
BUT we all do feel vulnerable
when we share proper. 

BUT we can get used to being real with others.
We can learn this stuff.
BUT we have to take the first step......

The trouble often
that those around us are like us.

Not sharing anything deep/inside/concerns
unshedtears.

Join me on this road less travelled ........