Tuesday, May 11, 2021

Wordsmith Wroe added to my pages & always my life

How do we start mending a broken / difficult relationships - at home or work.?


Level Five Communication is a way into 

mending a broken / difficult relationships - 

at home or work.

I have feelings and memories I want to share ........................ 

I conducted 'level five' with a group ............. 
 5 humans to start with. 
Then it grew in number as we went through Level Five 
from bottom to top. 
It is really tough on the leader and also the members when a climate of self revelation is kicking in and then .............
comes the invasion of others who are synchronized with the feelings of others. 

I always go on about the level five stuff. 

If you are new to it all - it is about the five levels of communication. 
I have blob drawings so people can say where they are and stuff. 
I will click through them again:- 
Please start reading from level one and climb up NOW 

Level five;- total openness 
level four;- feelings 
level three;- opinions 
level two;- facts 
level one;- cliché 
The idea is to stretch ourselves to build relationships 
by being authentic in communication. 
If a relationship you have is struggling - share some L5.
If we stay down the bottom end, 
communication and life itself - 
it is boring. 
( of course we are all at the facts and opinions level sometimes - 
but to stay there bbbbrrrrrrrrr so cold) 

Feelings, sharing them, is the start of level five communication. 
I believe we get more and give more in that very place. 

We, the group, walked through the levels from top to bottom 
and everyone shared about themselves;- 
a cliché about me and my communication 
a fact about myself 
an opinion I hold about myself 
a feeling I have about myself 
a new, not yet shared with this group, openness statement about self. 

wow we did it and 
fab fab 
wonder ....................................... 



Sunday, May 09, 2021

Blob Tree - a whole range of materials available worldwide.


All the Blob Tree Materials at


All the Blob Tree Materials at



Friday, May 07, 2021

SHORT BUT ..................

 Not today or last night but .........

The two days and two nights before =  the worst in my life. My life was full of pain and could not sleep sit or do anything. I had call on medical serviced to upgrade my pain-killers. Not a great experience. I am easing somewhat, not gone..... I am being honest & open with you .............



Friday, April 30, 2021

Blob World, part of the Blob Tree collection, in ACTION with Oyvin working in Germany -  🅱🅴🅰🆄🆃🅸🅵🆄🅻 


Oyvin my Norwegian friend 

Opening up some beautiful humans in Germany with this 'Blob World' communication tool.

It is downloadable, INSTANTLY, via www.blobtree.com

It is amazing how this Blob tool can get people thinking talking learning understanding & connecting with each other so easily.

There is a free booklet download available FULL of different ways to use so many developmental tools from www.blobtree.com



I am lost for words - about you - other than …..

Thursday, April 29, 2021

This is where I am at in terms of understanding my own feelings .............

1 My feelings are mine - they don't belong to anyone else.

2  When I feel annoyed it could mean that I have feelings triggered by another persons language or behaviours or a memory, conscious or unconscious, from our own life. BUT the feelings are mine.

3 Blame is a discharge of pain.

4 Where I am at is:: to feel a feeling not react to it without thinking. We can learn to do this:: Pause. Think. Then respond directed by our thinking, based on our values, self awareness.

5 Responding with the keyword "YOU" is usually the start of something regrettable.  Starting a response with the word "I" is usually followed by a more measured verbal response.

A search of this website will give other examples of alternative language useful for our developing our own language and relationships.

All this is so important to me NOW as it has been over years of life management and developing helping relationships with troubles humans of all ages.



Bruce Cockburn live streaming

Wednesday, April 28, 2021

Many people are on the edge of showing self awareness because it would continue a process of vulnerability & unavailability which they have hidden behind for many years.


Torgrim DJ and me facilitating a wild (& developmental) Rolling Magazine Show in NORWAY


---------- Lisa I remember your beauty. Your journey of pain which you shared with me. _______


Lisa I love you.
It is her birthday tomorrow ::

A few years ago today Lisa dropped off my screen.
She had been ever present on Facebook.
Then silence.

She was as vulnerable as hell.
Like all of us - 
but she was so fragile 
she could not pretend - 
Like I do
Like we do ……..

She always used to carry around 
a screw top coca-cola bottle - 
she carried it everywhere. 
It didn't only have coca-cola inside.
Vodka was always present.

I led regular group work sessions 
in a London hostel where she lived.
Lunch time
with free tea and sandwiches.
Also late night ones starting 10pm.

We used to sit around.
Starting with donuts
dipped in a chocolate fondu.

Individuals all with untold stories
untold feelings.
Some regulars
Some nervous new residents.

I facilitated participation
using Blob Tree tools & more.

All aimed at affirmation
triggering a climate of trust
and humans opening up
like flowers to the sun.

Lisa came to every one.
Unless she was on a bender.

She supported me in lots of ways.
She knew that I hoped someone would 'open up' first.
Someone to 'kick off' sharing honestly = L5.
The kind of vulnerability that gives others permission 
to take that road of vulnerability for themselves.

This sharing of vulnerability
and says 'I am not alone - there are others like me'

She helped me
She helped others
by sharing, often slurring, herself in the group.

She was truly a beautiful human.
I could tell you many stories
which would trigger my weeping.
I am emotional now as I click keys.

I have many Lisa photographs. 
I would love to share a few
but I won't - with deep respect for her.

It wasn't just alcohol - as normal
there was other addictions 
other damage.

Her birthday - I will always remember
some years ago -  but never forgotten 
She left the world of pain.

I only discovered some weeks later 
that she had died
from a heroin overdose.

A few years ago on her birthday - 29th April.
I clicked into her Facebook page.
I posted a birthday message & love.
I then scrolled down her page to view previous messages.
The last birthday greeting was from myself a year before.
I sobbed my heart out.
Still do - in remembering now……………….
Tears now flow mingled down .......

I remember your beauty.
Your journey of pain
which you shared with me.

You are beautiful
Not a bad bone in your body - 
but many fragile ones.

you live on in my memory.
You live on with eternal videos in my head.
Precious one.
Beautiful Human.

May the Divine Taxi driver give you a good ride ……

L⃣o⃣v⃣i⃣n⃣g⃣y⃣o⃣u⃣ ………….

Tuesday, April 27, 2021


Just Published! Blob Backgrounds - the first create your own version of a Blob Tree and other scenes! Personalise your own Blob Tree with a specific range of feelings, or use the Backgrounds and Blobs for a discussion. Ideal for people working with children and adults. Also included are tools for transitions such as moving class, school and home. Each background is in BW (for annotation) and colour (for use in discussion). A perfect set of tools for SENDCOs, teachers, counsellors, therapists, social workers, children's workers and parents. 

Download from here: https://www.lulu.com/en/gb/shop/pip-wilson-and-ian-long/blob-backgrounds/ebook/product-7dmdg6.html?page=1&pageSize=4

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Why I write …..

Monday, April 26, 2021

Conducting Training I use experiential games, yes fun but also a massive dynamic change.


‘Making Love’ in Canada. 
It is team work with all ages. 
Building a climate of trust. 
Opening doors to taking risk for self development. 


This me making a statement

I have decided to become an 
learning life from studying::
My emotions
From yours as well. 



Will you accept my description of yourself?

Found this on the INTERNET.

The way in to all things Blob Communication Tools is.     www.blobtree.com 

Dig in

YOU are a LEADER .......

Sunday, April 25, 2021

My Heart bleeds with Armenia & my friends there.

Using a presidential proclamation, Mr Biden said: "Each year on this day, we remember the lives of all those who died in the Ottoman-era Armenian genocide and recommit ourselves to preventing such an atrocity from ever again occurring.

"Beginning on 24 April 1915, with the arrest of Armenian intellectuals and community leaders in Constantinople by Ottoman authorities, one and a half million Armenians were deported, massacred, or marched to their deaths in a campaign of extermination.

More from Armenia

"We honour the victims of the Meds Yeghern so that the horrors of what happened are never lost to history.

"And we remember so that we remain ever-vigilant against the corrosive influence of hate in all its forms."

Members of the Armenian diaspora gather in Montebello, California
Image:Members of the Armenian diaspora gather in Montebello, California

Mr Biden reportedly informed Turkey's President Recep Tayyip Erdogan that he was going to make the announcement in a call on Friday.

While neither country mentioned this in their readouts from the conversation, the statement from the White House did say that the US leader told his Turkish counterpart that he wanted to improve the relationship between the country and find "effective management of disagreements".

The pair will also hold a bilateral meeting at the NATO summit in Brussels in June.

Turkey's President Tayyip Erdogan
Image:Turkey's President Tayyip Erdogan

In the Armenian capital of Yerevan on Saturday, people climbed to a hilltop complex to memorialise victims with flowers - creating a wall of blooms 7ft high.

Armenian deputy foreign minister Avet Adonts, speaking at the memorial before Mr Biden issued his proclamation, said a US president using the term genocide would "serve as an example for the rest of the civilised world".

A Lebanese-Armenian bishop adjusts his garment inside the cemetery of Armenians. Pic: Associated Press
Image:A Lebanese-Armenian bishop adjusts his garment inside the cemetery of Armenians who were executed by Ottoman Turks. Pic: Associated Press

Mr Biden's statement added: "Today, as we mourn what was lost, let us also turn our eyes to the future - toward the world that we wish to build for our children.

"A world unstained by the daily evils of bigotry and intolerance, where human rights are respected, and where all people are able to pursue their lives in dignity and security."

People lay flowers at the eternal fire of the Tsitsernakaberd memorial in Yerevan
Image:People lay flowers at the eternal fire of the Tsitsernakaberd memorial in Yerevan

"Let us renew our shared resolve to prevent future atrocities from occurring anywhere in the world. And let us pursue healing and reconciliation for all the people of the world," he continued.

"The American people honour all those Armenians who perished in the genocide that began 106 years ago today."

Friday, April 23, 2021

How do I know if anyone clicks into my website? - does anyone read? - reflect? like/dislike?

 I peep into my website everyday - glance at the HITS everyday ........... I try.

I have been Blogging/Reflecting/Churning/Digging - ever since 2007 .......... and thanx to everyone who has helped me to set up/design - & help this blind man to see - to reach out to humans - to open up myself ...........

Hits wise I forget what/when - but a sort of memory digs up 3 to 4 k each week - that has been generally the normal =  with swings up and down.

A couple of days ago I was surprised that we hit 6838 =  hits in the last 7 days. Don't know why the jump.

TODAY I have just jumped on my desktop (rather than my iPhone where generally I don't view my website hits) - but I do post short bits via my iPhone to you.

TODAY a massive jump - never been seen before .................  9221 HITS (in the last 7 days)! I don't know why the jump!

Any ideas - let me know.

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Is your middle name STATIC or CHANGE ?

Thursday, April 22, 2021

My first cry. My last cry.

India. L⃣o⃣v⃣i⃣n⃣g⃣y⃣o⃣u⃣

Heart tugging art from my home town


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Wednesday, April 21, 2021

From my friend Denis in the USA

My heart warmed yesterday THEN::

From the USA::
Guns are on my mind (again),  especially the availability and use in this country. I have no issue with 2nd Amendment rights. I do have a problem with the ease at which guns are available. Also am deeply concerned at how many people are shot dead by police. 
Without knowing any of the details about today's incident in Ohio,  I ponder how and why a 15 year old girl (possibly with a knife) is shot dead by a police officer. There has to be a different way of dealing with people who appear to be in some kind of crisis the likes of which most of us (me included) have not the remotest experience. These are troubles times in the United States and we need to come together. Partisan politics are literally "killing us"! STOP THE NONSENSE we all are human beings striving for a better world!