Monday, October 18, 2021

Partners in Blob Creation

I think this was 2 years ago when I met Ian in Da Mario Restaurant in London for our regular meet- up. 

This was also the day also when my Doctor informed me that my blood test had revealed cancer. 

Life changing. 


Emotion Detective

Monday, October 11, 2021

A Nellyism age 6

Nellyism by Nell aged 6

"We have
At school today"


Friday, October 08, 2021

@Saints1890 v Catalan #RugbyLeague

🎼🎡.•*¨*•♪🎡♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•*¨*•♪🎡♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.when ♫•*¨*• ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* the ♫•*¨*• SAINTS ♫•*¨ ♫•*¨*•.¸ go¸¸.•* ♫•*¨*• marching ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* in ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* ♫  
KO 6 pm
Build up on Sky TV @ 4 o’clock  Saturday 

The family will all be watching cheering nervously 




Yes, you must cry in front of your children

Yes, you must cry in front of your children

Crying in front of your children is a natural expression that can benefit the emotional well-being of the family

Mourn is a natural reaction of every human being and doing it in front of the children it does not make us worse fathers and mothers. What’s more, expressing both negative and positive emotions with our sons and daughters is beneficial for the emotional health of the family.

Shame often overwhelms us and we prefer to hide so as not to cry in front of them. However, this is a sign of repression of the emotions motivated by our lack of Emotional education. We believe that we can regulate our emotions in a natural way, that we do not need tools to manage them and that therefore, it is not necessary to teach our children to understand and control their own emotions.

But this position is the wrong one. As the psychologist BegoΓ±a Ibarrola points out, “the emotional literacy it is a pending subject “, both in us adults and in the children we are raising.

The process of learning to manage them begins by legitimizing our emotions. Letting us mourn in front of our children as in other times we laugh with them.

Yes, you must cry in front of your children

Why You Should Stop Telling Your Kids “It’s Ok” When They Cry

5 reasons why crying in front of your children is beneficial

If you are not sure about expressing the emotion of sadness with your children, these reasons can cause you to change your point of view.

Hiding our emotions we get nothing

When we keep our emotions to ourselves, the only thing we can do is suppress them. We need to express our emotions. Denying them is only going to get in the future accumulate and explode and we do not know how to control our reaction. We cannot hide our mood from our children, because they observe us all the time and know if we are good or bad.

Improves our emotional well-being and that of our children

Crying is the behavior we choose to express the emotional state of sadness. Tears help us to express what we cannot do with words and they free us from the sad feeling that suffocates us. Crying is necessary to have well-being in life.

We prioritize our well-being when we legitimize and express all emotions. In addition, we are contributing to well-being of our son and the good family atmosphere. As the founder of Relax and Educa, Amaya de Miguel, says, “if you take care of yourself, things at home will be much better. If you are well, that group will be much better ”.

Yes, you must cry in front of your children

Are you off or out of coverage with your kids? Our presence is a vital need for our children

We influence their emotional education

The teacher and psychopedagogue Mar Romera says that the expression of our emotions will serve as an example for our children so that they can express theirs. “Emotional education is not based on speeches, but on recurring emotional behaviors experienced within the family, that is, what you do as a mother when you get angry, the intensity with which you get angry, what you do when you cry, how you cry ”.

Know our emotions and express them with them makes us their models of emotional management.

They realize that crying is not bad

The expression of sadness is often associated with something that should be avoided. Crying is seen as a sign of weakness, since if this emotion is repressed, we show strength.

But this is far from the truth. Fathers and mothers are the leaders who direct and guide the path of our children. They believe in what we tell them and what they observe. Therefore, if they see us cry, they will see that tears are a normal expression in all people, regardless of gender or age.

Practice empathy

Fathers and mothers are not perfect, we are not always well. Crying in front of them allows them to be empathetic, to understand that we all have ups and downs, that we need time to return to our usual emotional state. Happiness is not based on joy, but on a balance of all emotions.

Granddaughter photography memory.

She seems to be able to se & then lay down a pretty detailed drawing of Dave Grohl

Nell age 6


The Blobs are into FEELINGS like me.

Monday, October 04, 2021


The strategy is to programme in taking a group of teens outside their comfort zones.


This then becomes a leveller where we all need each other. 
This one - years later I get an email & a reflection regarding a visit to a remote ex farmhouse. A dry farm. The water table was no longer +
No electricity 
No water on tap. 
Outside civilisation. 
No street lights. 
Total blackness at night. 

So years later I receive a reflection::

I asked a question to Rob::
What experience you had re Mayflower is the one you remember most?






This would take a 600 page book to honestly answer, in short Profound life changing a positive life experience that would go on to effect the rest of my life, my faith my family .....
My world.

I remember all of it, with Cristal clear vision, and I owe the Mayflower, you and all the staff.
More than you could ever know.
If you were to force me to pick a memory this would be it ............ 

I was feeling very down my father had just had to have an eye removed due to cancer (he went on to make a full recovery) and 
.... my parents marriage wasn’t going to last to much longer, 
I was 14 angry rebellious and scared.
And to add to this I had to go to club tonight and tell you that I couldn’t go on the trip to Wales as my parents couldn’t afford it. 
You on hearing this was your normal reassuring 
Self, and boomed don’t worry Jesus loves ya,
2 days later a Mayflower staff member went to my house and told my Mum my trip had been payed for anonymously. ( I never found out who)

On that trip we’re the usual suspects (Ren Slug Tallman two of the Neale brothers etc)
One night I was up alone down stairs unable to sleep, and all the staff had to be on their toes as the lads kept raiding the tuck shop.
As a city boy, I had never been anywhere so dark and so quiet, you and some of the staff
Had been outside on some kind of walking ramble in the dark as you came back I feel that you became aware
Of how scared I was, although I would never admit cause I was a Sniper.
You said "look out the window Rob look at all them stars Rob you're never really alone."

I don’t know if you remember it Pip but those few word were so reassuring I’ve never forgotten.


He has made contact after many years  

From Pip's iPhone 
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TWITTER @RealPipWilson 

So powerful to empathise

57th Anniversary yesterday surrounded by LOVE

Saturday, October 02, 2021

We won yesterday. THE GRAND FINAL at Old Trafford next Saturday 🎼🎡.•*¨*•♪🎡♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•*¨*•♪🎡♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.when ♫•*¨*• ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* the ♫•*¨*• SAINTS ♫•*¨ ♫•*¨*•.¸ go¸¸.•* ♫•*¨*• marching ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* in ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* ♫

🎼🎡.•*¨*•♪🎡♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•*¨*•♪🎡♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.when ♫•*¨*• ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* the ♫•*¨*• SAINTS ♫•*¨ ♫•*¨*•.¸ go¸¸.•* ♫•*¨*• marching ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* in ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* ♫  


Friday, October 01, 2021

Come on you @Saints1890

NEXT ONE GRAND FINAL 🎼🎡.•*¨*•♪🎡♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•*¨*•♪🎡♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.when ♫•*¨*• ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* the ♫•*¨*• SAINTS ♫•*¨ ♫•*¨*•.¸ go¸¸.•* ♫•*¨*• marching ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* in ♫•*¨*•.¸¸¸.•* ♫  

Wednesday, September 29, 2021


Beatles. Gerry & the Pacemakers. 
I was a regular with my mates in the club. 
Tonight it was my first date with Mrs Beautiful 

60 years ago today

It all started   


Youth Worker as young as 15


I recon I was aged 15 when I became a Youth Worker.
Someone saw something in me which was more than a participant - more of a leader!

So I was entrusted with challenges as I facilitated developmental activities with teenagers younger than myself.
60 years on, only pausing for pandemics and such - i have crossed paths with many beautiful humans = and then I get a message this week which hits me for six.
Stings on both cheeks.(THE LOVE KIND OF STING)
I am blessed - it Blesses me as I sit here with cancer rocking my boat (I don’t feel well at the moment) - and I have been given permission to publish here.

I have not seen him since 1985 or maybe years before?
There is so much more to share about Rob - he has a fantastic memory from his experiences at the Mayflower Youth Work.

Thanks Rob for this, (I am planning to ask him to share some stories - back in the day).

Thanks to Rob and so many other BHP’s who have held hands with me over the years.
I am rich - beyond beyond …………….


Sunday, September 26, 2021

I have shed tears today

Mission Statement::
Every job I have done 
I independently composed a 
Mission Statement.

I hold it dear.
It is not a strategy but a foundation for all things I do, believe and hold close to my heart.

Our values are the core principles that define who we are, what we believe and who we want to be become & live our lives. 
When we hold them in our soul, living our every day life, we create our own boundaries from all of our inner attitudes behaviours, language and decisions - 
ALL of our actions. 

Without us knowing who we are and our our values we can so easily interact thoughtlessly, allowing our context, and other humans around us, to divert us away from our mission in life.

I am not posting my Mission Statement here.
If you wish you can search my to view.


When Angels appear out of the mist to bless

No joke

I trust you completely……..

Thursday, September 23, 2021

A LOVE that will not let me go ...............


I am not functioning well since cancer hit me.

Doing the simplest thing and - & down I go in terms of energy.Tired. Washed out. 

The medical call it fatigue.

I have many things to do.

Many people to meet up with. 

A desk and an office to clear.

It's hard to explain.

I have a love that will not let me go