Thursday, December 31, 2020

I don’t like such verbal transactions. In ‘Level Five’ terms - it is Level one = ‘cliche'

 "Hello - how are you"?

"FINE - how are you"?

I don’t like such verbal transactions.
In ‘Level Five’ terms - it is Level one = ‘cliche'

(if you don’t know what 'Level 5' is
use the search bar to your right = (Find the beauty within)
you will see several examples of L5.)

'Why am I afraid to tell you who I am
because if I tell you who I am
and you don't like who I am,
that is all I have.'

(Title of my favourite book of all time.)

We all have times when we feel vulnerable.
We mostly don't choose to share them.
They happen.
This 'emotional literacy’ is what I keep clicking about, going-on-about,
is all about how to handle such times of vulnerability.
And many other feelings too.

I bet you have those feelings too sometimes.
I know I am not on my own.

BUT we can choose share vulnerability 
I believe Vulnerability is a strength not a weakness'.

I have recently shared some of my vulnerability
on Facebook and on my website -below with the title 

'Today & me. Digging my soul.

(dated December 26th - 2020)

I have more to come.
Keep a watch out here =


If you are a regular in this place you will know that I repeat often::
'Growth does not reside in a place called comfortable'.




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HAPPY ...........

Monday, December 28, 2020



Have you felt stress recently?
Do you tell anyone?
Do you talk it through?
Work at it?
Or do you contain it 
like a capped volcano?
Building up for the next

It has got to come out.
There are different methods.
Some are secretly done.
One person silently releasing pressure/stress.

A better way is to spill.

Share with another human.
Otherwise we wear a mask.
We are not being real.
We are not authentic.

Then Shift happens.

We change
We grow.
We begin to love our feelings.
We welcome the signals.
We can read the semaphore.

We can become code breakers.

Emotional Intelligence is for us all.
For our wholeness
Divine ....................


Thought for today.

Sunday, December 27, 2020

"I feel like sticking him"


"I feel like sticking him"
"I feel like sticking him"
These words were dragging my eyes to the demonstrated stabbing movements
I did not want to see
stabbing movements
and the facial expression
repeated words
repeated stabbing movements
repeated twisted facial pain.

I have to be with humans
to miss any one would be not owning life as it is.

If there is a step into clocking
them feelings
there is light
a journey through a tunnel


Saturday, December 26, 2020

Today & me. Digging my soul.

When I was 21
I decided
That I wanted to have the best life
Since then ::
I have lost teeth
Dodged a pick-axe swung in anger
Ten years of acid indigestion 
Dodged a meat cleaver as above
Heart & soul close to teens 
Weeks in Crown Court with them
Alongside in the Old Bailey cells
Discovered own weaknesses
Listened to the horrific story’s 
Discovered my own feelings
Started to to manage them
Became an ‘Emotion Detective’
Lived alongside violence
Loved the most violent
Learned how to see through behaviour 
Every day learning on the job
Team work always best
Objectivs = a Helping Relationship
Learned how to love the unlovely
Experience my own weeping
Writing to offload 
Emptying my soul to examine it
Holding confidentiality 

Discovered having the best life
To kneel
To be scared
To be loved
To be beautiful imperfection

All this because of that act of kneeling by my bed-side aged 21, asking a distanced God if I could come closer and accept the best life on offer.


Presents can change your life.

Monday, December 21, 2020

How can I improve ?





Practice self-evaluation and reflection.
Keep a journal and track your progress. 
How would you rate your current level of self-awareness out of ten? 
Think about how often you say regretful things; 
repeat bad habits; make absent-minded decisions, and have erratic thoughts.

Set regular goals, break big goals down into smaller milestones. 

Ask yourself at the end of each day, 

“What did I do well today?” And, 

“How can I improve on this tomorrow?” 


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Sunday, December 20, 2020

We have to accept the situation and behave for the benefit of others and our very selves.

We are living in strange times in the UK

We have just moved into the highest lockdown ever re Covid.

We are not going anywhere - all Christmas plans are cancelled::

I posted the above on social media yesterday.(do the right thing)

We have to accept the situation and behave for the benefit of others and our very selves.

Whatever our situation - we need to preserve lives - illnesses and death -  If we don't get on with it & and do the right thing. 

Now we have made our minds up - the tension shrinks - we can get on and do the best in the circumstances.

The worse situation is for those living alone with no support - and even worse still - those who don't have a home or hostel or a friend with a sofa to sleep on.

We can do our best thing ............

We have accepted we won't be able to play with our children's toys (and the children = two beautiful Grandchildren) - I groan & yearn for them, our own daughters and us Grandparents too.

Love will find away .........

When you walk into a room - what do you do? well? or not so good?


THIS is the sort of response I work for - a teachers response to on of my sessions.


Saturday, December 19, 2020

We go into Lockdown as from tomorrow. My quote::

Continued from Yesterday re:: Our bodies are CONTAINERS.


Bodies are important.
Containers of all sorts.

One little body was especially ......
bigger than the exterior
beyond beyond.
This little body 
massive - 
small body
with love.

A little body
used to bring love
like a parcel
like a gift
like a treat
like the best ever
container of the Divine
used to bring love
with the real X Factor!
Divine become flesh
and hanging out
with us

Waging Shalom ..................


Friday, December 18, 2020

Your BODY is a container.

We know ourselves more than anybody 
We are inside our body
our body is a container
containing the loving spiritual feeling you.
You are invisible - 
only your body is on view.
Only 7% of our communication is words
the rest is body language
which we all can see & read.
Our exterior communicates our interior. 

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Wednesday, December 16, 2020

On a London Tube train and I experience a concentration camp.


On a London Tube train.

I open my book.
I first picked it up as I left home this morning -2/3rds asleep.
It was one of the zillions of books I have on the go.
THIS was ::

Viktor Frankl "Man's Search For Meaning" - 

I started to read it.

After three pages I have to close it and handle the depth stimulation.
He was writing about the experiences in the Concentration Camp.
His preoccupation with finding a new piece of wire to 'lace' his shoes together.
The tears of pain as he walked with torn shoes.
Would there be any food after a long day of slave labour.
Should he trade his last cigarette for a piece of bread.

He was aware that the prisoners who lost faith in the future - were doomed.
Living on past memories were fatal.
So his imagination took him to a place in the future.
A place where he was delivering a psychology lecture to a great audience of students.
All in comfortable seats and keen to learn.
His subject was 'The psychology of a concentration camp'.
He was firmly in the future - firmly in the positive.
He ended with a fab Quote::
"Emotion, which is suffering, ceases to be suffering as soon as we form a clear and precise picture of it"

Stinking wow - I wrote on the page.

I thought about it as the train swayed and juddered.
Then I thought - how do I apply it?
I started thinking about getting home - rather than the train carriage.
Getting in with the salad I had bought at M&S, and sitting down enjoying it.
Joan is away so I am busking the food - a cold pasta/chicken/pine nuts salad hmmmmm
Then getting home NOT to watch football on TV.
Cuddling Zig on my knee.
Eating the chocolate desert which I won't tell Joan about.
Lighting the fire and seeing Zig strike his sexy pose for me, on the rug - on his back.

It was true - I escaped the concentration camp rail carriage hmmmmmmm
How could transpose this - apply this?
What emotion, which causes some pain, be managed by concentrating on the future?

A QUESTION for you::
Which of the Blobs, on the illustration below,

is you  -  right now - feelings - emotions?