Monday, November 30, 2015

About growth - About stretching. About Life Fitness.


Growth is like a muscle. 

It can’t become stronger 
if it is not challenged by 
heavier weights and exercises.



When a task becomes effortless 

it is a sign that we are not challenging ourselves enough 
and are not encouraging any potential growth that will assist our BECOMING.

Growth does not reside
in a place called comfortable.




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Believe in yourself





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Sunday, November 29, 2015

Growth in our BECOMING

When a task becomes effortless 
it is a sign that we are not challenging ourselves enough 
and are not encouraging any potential growth that will assist our BECOMING.

Growth does not reside
in a place called comfortable.

Saturday, November 28, 2015

Some say surround ourselves with intelligent and ambitious people - I say NO





Some say 
surround ourselves with intelligent and ambitious people.
I say 
spend time with those beautiful humans who exhibit
challenging behaviours attitudes and feelings.
There is a place called growth.
For self.
For all in the vicinity.


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Friday, November 27, 2015

Listen to this may sound like JAZZ It is but it is deeper life is here

Listen to this
may sound like JAZZ
It is
but it is deeper
life is here
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New Music/sounds/freedom for me




Blob Tree 'Christmas Story' download




Blob Christmas Story

DOWNLOAD
this Christmas Communication Tool
REALLY gets people of all ages talking/reflecting
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Jazz meets HIP HOP some music for you BEATS for your SOUL

Jazz meets HIP HOP
some music for you
BEATS for your SOUL






REMEMBER THE WAR MISTAKES FROM THE PAST


It’s difficult to remember who I was in those days. Certainly he was a human I don’t want to be like.





'Why am I afraid to tell you who I am.'

Many times I have  written about this -
the title of my favourite book of all time.

The back cover contains the full title:-
‘…. because if i tell you
who I am
and you don’t like
who I am
that’s all I have’
(by John Powell SJ)

Do you get this?

A summary is
- we tell / we show ourselves
to others as what we think/sense/feel
is what the receiver person
expects of us…….
because if we really show who we are
we will feel vulnerable/rejected/shamed
when / if we are ignored or sidelined = destroyed.

WOW that’s a challenge to me
and I have worded these things so many times.

So we protect our emotions.
We don’t want to feel certain things.
and/or
Experience certain behaviours from another.

Are we afraid of the reactions of others
or are we afraid of 
our own emotional reactions?

I was 40 before I felt my emotions.
Of course I had feelings those 40 years
but never clocked them.
Never knew how to contact them
articulate them.
Never thought about them.
Only thought about my behaviour 
because I was angry
or violent
or sulky
or silent ………..

It’s difficult to remember who I was in those days.
Certainly he was a human I don’t want to be like.

My breakthrough was because I had passion.
Passion to work with young humans.
I wanted to be in  helping relationship with them.
I was passionate to connect, build relationships
to help others not to be like me!

I had to study this humanness 
because I was working with young offenders.
I was failing to develop the best of helping relationships.
They were still violent - still offending.
I was blind emotionally.

It was them who made me angry.
NOW I know that those angry feeling were/are mine.

We cannot dump our own feelings on someone else.
“You made me feel …….”
I know believe to be the biggest con trick on ourselves.
ie - someone behaves or speaks fouls/abuses/hurts
and I feel feelings BUT
 - it’s not THEM making me - 
it’s their behaviour
triggering my feelings.

Blame is a discharge of feelings because it hurts to own it ourselves.

That was a liberating step along the endless journey of emotional intelligence.
It connected with me spiritually.
It collided with my faith, value of self, value of others
and it changed how I worked as a Youth Worker/Leader/CEO/Manager
and latterly as a Trainer / Facilitator.

We  are all responsible for own behaviour
and
we all responsible for our own feelings.


We can learn how  to manage BOTH.

How are you doing on your
social
emotional
spiritual
relational
journey?




Pip Wilson
November 2015








Thursday, November 26, 2015

I Lurve new music I want to sip at this cup forever Music for you here enjoy as you surf


I Lurve new music
I want to sip at this cup
forever

Music for you here
enjoy as you surf

I met up with Mr Singh on Tuesday.



I met up with Mr Singh on Tuesday.
We meet every couple of months.

He is a great man of wisdom.
Travelled the world.
Fought in the Indian Army.
A privilege to know him.

We talked deep spiritual things
as we eat Swedish meat balls in IKEA.

We talked about many things.
His journey
my journey.

We talked of love and relationships.
How do we love.
How do we live it.
How do we word it.

He remember well
Things from our past.

He reminded me of a red headed match.
The kind we strike for a light.
How we can just be
good to look at
all full of colour
upright
proud
but not good for purpose
until we burn ……………

To be continued ……….



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Once I used to feel dead and sad for them was a large black cloud over me. I had come from a far away land ......



I ask people to write
write for these pages
tell their story
because
* it's good for you
* It's good for the person
* it's how we learn

When we spill
tell our story
reflect
EVERYBODY LEARNS.

Here is a young person
Living in a Hostel
Young yet life lived
vividly ..................

Here it is - she said I could use her name too.

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Davina.


Once I used to feel dead and sad 

for them was a large black cloud over me. 
I had come from a far away land, 
which no one knew about; 
there was a weird certainty about the people 
for they were different but all the same. 

If I were approached by someone 
I would smile and not utter a word. 
For their faces - smiles 
gave me a great uncertainty.

That's why I didn’t say much 
for I was different in a particular way 
that no one could understand. 

That's why now I still stay away from the people 
as there is a great uncertainty bout them.

By Davina


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I want to explore beyond the shell I live in.




We can lie to ourselves
about our feelings
our work
our purpose.

I am not what I do
I am not what is seen
I am not what I would like to be.

I want to join the dots
between the outer and inner me.

I want to explore
beyond the shell I live in.
To get to know
myself.

I am always reflecting
writing
talking about 
L5
(Level Five Communication)

Only recently, 
on a training day I led,
the impact was wondrous
as I facilitated L5 experientially.

Many grabbed the concept
to use
on self
in their work with others
as Counsellors
as Psychotherapists 
as Social Workers
as Family Workers
as Youth Workers

It was about joining the dots.
About awareness - YES
but practical as a skill.

Search my www.pipwilson.com
with those keywords
and you will find many
images
reflections
as I dig deep to understand
me
you
every human.

The lies we whisper
or speak
kick off
when we add flour to our feelings.

Communication really kicks off
when we communicate feelings
through every pore.
If we can’t share feeling
we need to lie about ourselves.
We can’t be authentic
We can’t be free
We can’t be vulnerable
We mask

I am not there yet
but I am working on it.

OF course I hear you saying
we need to be sensitive in what we share.
Sensitive to others
Appropriateness 
BUT neither
can we use that as an excuse.
We all need to take risks
for our own development.
Take risks to join the dots.
NOT sacrificing freedom for security.

Can you put your finger
on where you are at the moment?
If you take the step - 
Then we can go forward
in our becoming
as we journey on along
The Road Less Travelled.


Pip Wilson
25th November 2015



How to Lead When You’re Afraid



The Myth of Fearless Leadership: How to Lead When You’re Afraid

By Chris Cancialosi
The fearless leader fallacy harkens back to the “great man” theory of leadership, which portrayed effective leaders as those who charge fearlessly into the melee to save the day. They were “born to lead” and “looked fear in the face without blinking an eye.”
Maybe this resonates with some folks out there but, for me, it never quite sat right. I served overseas in combat as an officer in the military. I’ve started and grown a company that now employs more people than I could have ever imagined. By all measures I am a successful leader but I am far from fearless. In fact, every time I begin to think I have a clue about what I’m doing, something comes along that frankly, scares the living daylights out me.
I’m willing to bet that I’m not alone. I don’t believe that successful leaders and entrepreneurs are fearless. I believe that the most successful leaders and entrepreneurs among us are just as fearful as the rest of us. What sets these men and women apart is what they do in the face of fear.




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