TRAILER " WOMEN ARE HEROES" from SOCIAL ANIMALS on Vimeo.

Sorry folks.
The blog below.
I did plan to click about the pictures
showing some of the places I am going to
in South Africa.

But I got carried away with feelings stuff.
more important methinxxxxxxxxxxx

Now ..
... me ..
... when I am like this
I always look at my self
and the first question is ..
... feelings.

'Why am I afraid to tell you who I am -
because if I tell you who I am,
and you don't like who I am,
that is all I have.'
That is the title of my favourite book -
and here in internet space
I have the commitment to be as open as honest as I can
because I believe that is good for me,
you,
and us all ..
..... in the journey of self understanding
and everything developmental.....
..... so I want to tell you who I am.

I am feeling positive.
I am reflectively full-up.
I want to reflect.
I want to understand me
to also understand
you.
(and other beautiful humans)

Last Saturday tho
I felt stressed for two hours.
All of a sudden I noticed
I was feeling stressed.

I know what pressure is like,
that is generally good.

I live with pressure all the time.
In fact,
when I am not there,
I am am at my worst.

I like the pressure
I like the relaxing from it too!

But on Saturday
I felt that my blood was boiling
in my veins.
It seemed to be rushing around.
I know that feeling too.
Feelings are signals.
Because I work on my own emotions,
understanding them
giving each a name/word = emotional literacy.
I was able to examine them.

I remember once
back in the early 80's -
I grabbed a picture of the wall in our flat
and just smashed it.
It shocked me.
That was not being emotionally intelligent!

We were living in a flat above a youth and community centre.
Seven days a week.
Pressure and worse kicking off.
I just lost it.

I think reaching our own cliff edge
is good.
It teaches us to only go so far.
I had to learn and
I have been learning ever since -
and I believe you do too!

Have you felt stress recently?
Do you tell anyone?
Do you talk it through?
Work at it?
Or do you contain it
like a capped volcano?
Building up for the next
eruption?

It has got to come out.
There are different methods.
Some are secretly done.
One person silently releasing pressure/stress.

A better way is to spill.
Then SHIFT HAPPENS.

Share with another human.
Otherwise we wear a mask.
We are not being real.
We are not authentic.

Then Shift happens.

We change
We grow.
We begin to love our feelings.
We welcome the signals.
We can read the semaphore.

We can become code breakers.

Emotional Intelligence is for us all.
For our wholeness
Divine ....................

This is the most beautiful photo.
Perfect example of humans communicating well.
Look at the faces.
The tight skin.
The total focus of the eyes.
Other events unnoticed.
All the emotion is on task,listening -
as one other communicates in different way.
All the listeners leaning forward.
Beautiful.




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This is one of the places i am going to in South Africa.
I go Friday
Two weeks away.
I will wi-fi you when I can get online
you are beautiful

I am challenged
by humans
who won't let me close.

I understand that
and support their rights.

But I want to get close
so I can offer support
and anything they want.

The problem is toothache.
What do you think about
when you have toothache?

ANSWER;
toothache.

So .....
they don't want me close
because life is absorbed
by toothache.

I understand.
So ........ it is slow.



Part of the solution
to toothache
is allowing others to get close.

Isolation and toothache don't get on.
In time and with opportunity -
they will accept me.

Some.
Then I will build a relationship -
a climate of trust -
consistent -
reliable.

Then the toothache -
sometimes called;
homelessness
alcohol problems
drug addiction
insecurity
fear of failure
emotional deprivation
broken spirit
depression
hopelessness
andmoreandmoreandmore .....

I am not the answer to all/any of these ......
..... the issues of life,
it seems to me,
need to be addressed as part of a community ...
... learning from each other.

me too
me learning too
me giving too

I feel my role is facilitating these things to happen.
Structured experiences -
coz they just don't happen
on their own so easily.

Do you get what I am on about?
......... working with those
with the greatest needs,
takes some considerable time
and emotional resources ....

"Community is a safe place
precisely because
no one is attempting to heal
or convert you,
to fix you,
to change you.
Instead, the members
accept you as you are.
You are free to be you.
And being so free,
you are free to discard defenses,
masks,
disguises:
free to seek your own psychological
and spiritual health."
M. Scott Peck

hope you get part of it ..
.... I only get a part of it.

bhp

Dear Obama,

one day they cry Hosanna

the next minute its all "crucify him"

at least you are in good company.

Keep the faith.

...... and a thought ...... when I say I have feelings ........ remember that feelings of loneliness and insecurity are needed in the process of change ...... so change constantly ......, expect it as part of life ..... step that way ....... and we can hold hands together .......... in fact I like touching unique finger tips with you ....

A GAME FOR YOU CALLED 'ONE'

A GAME FOR YOU CALLED 'ONE'



A GAME .........

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This game is called 'The One Game'.
It is one of the most powerful ones you can use - 
powerfully positive.



It can be used in a group with six to twelve humans - not less than six.
I have used it with 30,000 humans - all self dividing into groups of about ten.
I have used this game in many nations of the world - with the same dynamic impact.

It needs some build up and a developed climate which is right for such an activity.

It can be good at the end of a;
Festival
Conference
Youth Camp
Rolling Magazine
Training Course
Fun Day
Sports Day
and for Team Building


Detail;

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Everyone is briefed and encouraged to do it with seriousness for the greater impact.
It is encouraged that there is no talking throughout to enhance the feelings.

In groups of about ten, one person lies down in the centre of a circle with eyes closed as the other group members stand around the vollunteer.

When the music starts - 'One' by U2, "We get to carry each other" are the lyrics.
Then all group members lift the person slowly, very slowly, up as high as they can - and down again slowly -
all in silence.

Silently the person gets up from the centre of the circle and another volunteer takes their place.
And repeated - until all have had a go. All are ENCOURAGED not directed. All volunteers but always there is full participation.

It is wonderful to see the group silently supporting each other by the stronger ones taking the heavier parts of the human frame.
It is great to see the heaviest of men being lifted by a more slightly built group of committed humans.
All the time - the music plays on and is only faded out when all have had an opportunity.

When everyone, every group, have finished it is good to get everyone in their groups to share the feelings experienced.
ALWAYS a powerful experience.


END

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It is an experiential game - you chose the right occasion.
It produces profound feelings and sometimes tears of beautifulness.
It is good to allow/encourage all to chat quietly to reflect on the experience with another.
Allow lots of time so it is not rushed.

It has got to be experienced and words of explanation will not give it justice. 

I have used it for years - designing it to build a community, togetherness and belonging.



bONE

The Blob Tree

Price:	£5.00

Have you used the Blob Tree?
Have got a copy on your
iPhone/PC/iPod Touch/Mac??
If you download this
you will have crisp beautiful copy forever -
and use it in conversations in the Pub
Club/People work if you want to stir a few
emotions.
This tool is great for Emotional Literacy
Emotional Intelligence stuff.
Easy way to start dialogue on Feelings
or discovering more about another human