FEELINGS
travel to the brain 4 times faster than thinking.
That's why we need to manage our emotions.
Otherwise they manage our behaviour and even relationships.
A skill to be developed for all of us.
Monday, June 03, 2013
LONELINESS CAN HURT MORE ...... I love this article.
I now know why I gained more than 13 kilograms in my early 20s: I was lonely.
I had left for school and a job in the Upper Midwest and I knew no one.
I filled my lonely nights and days with food, especially candy, cookies and ice cream.
I could not rein in my eating until I returned to New York
and my family, and began dating my future husband.
Loneliness, says John T. Cacioppo, an award-winning psychologist at the University ofChicago,
undermines people's ability to self-regulate.
In one experiment he cites, participantsmade to feel socially disconnected
ate many more cookies than those made to feel socially accepted.
In a real-life study of middle-aged and older adults in the Chicago area,
Dr. Cacioppo andcolleagues found that those who scored high on the University of California,
Los Angeles, Loneliness Scale, a widely used assessment,
ate more fatty foods than those who scored low.
"Is it any wonder that we turn to ice cream or other fatty foods
when we're sitting at homefeeling all alone in the world?"
Dr. Cacioppo said in his well-documented book,
"Loneliness,"written with William Patrick.
He said lonely individuals tend to do whatever they can to make themselves feel better,
if onlyfor the moment.
They may overeat, drink too much, smoke, speed or engage in indiscriminate sex.
A review of research published in 1988 found that "social isolation
is on a par with high bloodpressure, obesity, lack of exercise or smoking
as a risk factor for illness and early death," Dr.Cacioppo wrote.
Even without the presence of unwholesome behaviors,
Dr. Cacioppo and others have shown that loneliness can impair health
by raising levels of stress hormones and increasinginflammation.
The damage can be widespread, affecting every bodily system and brain function.
Lisa Jaremka of Ohio State University reported in January that people who are lonely
have higher levels of antibodies to certain herpes viruses,
indicating more activated viruses in their systems.
In another study, she found higher levels of inflammation-inducing substances
in the blood of lonely people.
Chronic inflammation has been linked to heart disease, arthritis,
Type 2 diabetes, and evensuicide attempts, Dr. Jaremka noted.
Loneliness has also been linked to cognitive decline.
A Dutch study published last year in The Journal of Neurology, Neurosurgery & Psychiatry
found that participants who reported feeling lonely
were more likely to develop dementia than those who lived on their own but were not lonely.
The Dutch study suggests that how people perceive their situation
may have a stronger impacton health than whether they live alone
and lack social connections.
Divorced people have reported feeling lonelier in a bad marriage than they do being single.
And people who live alone may still have a large network of friends and family
that helps to keep loneliness at bay.
People are fundamentally social beings
who require meaningful connections with others
to maximize health and well-being.
Dr. Cacioppo suggests reaching out to others with "random acts of kindness":
doing something that helps them physically or emotionally,
may be something as simple as complimenting a stranger's outfit
or helping an old person cross the street.
"What's required," he wrote, "is to step outside the pain of our own situation
long enough to'feed' others.
Real change begins with doing."
GILLES PETERSON DJ MUSIC SOUL FEEDER.
My music drug provider/supplier of inspiration - soul feeder and
Record collector / DJ / Broadcaster / Acid Jazz, Talkin' Loud,
and latterly Brownswood Recordings label
founder / owner / occasional remixer / music festival organizer, etc, etc, etc.
Widely acclaimed as a musical tastemaker,
he spreads his influence on music listeners around the world mostly through his Saturday afternoon radio show on BBC Radio 6 Music.
He also broadcasts the WW15 show, at drivetime on Japan's largest commercial radio station J-Wave. Parallel to this, his frequent DJing gigs around the world also have cemented a WORLDWIDE following. Venue is 333 Live.
Gilles Peterson @ the Lift from Paulo von Borries on Vimeo.
Sunday, June 02, 2013
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The Blob Tree Theory and BHP book- most popular.
***************Blob Theory************
“Life is difficult” says M. Scott Peck in his marvellous book, ‘The Road Less Travelled’.
Everyone has a feel-osophy of how life is, and how to negotiate it.
Some have a better grasp of reality than others.
Blobs have a basic idea which enables them to be successful in almost every context, with every people group, in every age.
They cross so many boundaries because they speak the universal languages of emotion and body gestures.
From the age of infancy we become fluent in these ways of communication before we even talk or read.
This knowledge enables us to understand others and ourselves.
Blobs are beautiful humans who are full of imperfections.
They display a whole range of qualities that we might admire or despise.
They interact with all aspects of what it is to be fully human.
Inspiring me @WilsonMansions EDL / Mosque - love it.
How to tackle the EDL
Those wondering how to respond to English Defence League marches this weekend can look to the example of tea and non-confrontation we set at York mosque
When we first heard about the English Defence League protest that was to take place outside our local mosque in York last Sunday, my colleagues and I sat down and thought about how we should behave. We are non-violent people and the EDL say they are too, so any notion of aggressive confrontation was ruled out immediately. We came up with a different approach. Now I hear that 50 more EDL protests are being planned across the country this weekend and I thought it timely to consider why the York response worked.
Much of the reaction to the obscenity in Woolwich has been polarisation, with many feeling they have to decide which side they are on, and then not budge.The murder of Lee Rigby has unleashed a lot of anger, fear and frustration and generated great tension. People are focusing on their differences. We felt that another response was needed, one that might provide a calm space in which we could listen to, and hear, one another. We realised that we did not fully understand the EDL stance in York and, from what we could make out, that they did not fully understand us either.
It was up to us to provide an atmosphere that was representative of our culture. When I say "our culture", I mean all of us, including the EDL and the members of the mosque. We all think of sitting down with a cup of tea as something quintessentially English, so we thought that offering a cup of good old-fashioned Yorkshire tea and hospitality would be a start. And I remembered a quote from George Bernard Shaw: "If the world's problems were brought to the Prophet Muhammad, he would solve them over a cup of tea." Tea was something unexpected and welcoming.
When we listened, we realised the EDL may have thought that we supported extremist behaviour and the Taliban. We pointed out that we condemned both in the strongest terms. Assumptions are dangerous, untested assumptions can be lethal. They were surprised, and they understood. The day ended in a game of football.
This weekend, we should try to put assumptions aside. Elements of the far-right are planning demonstrations across the country, including Birmingham, Luton and Leeds, in what has been described as a "day of hate". But we should be careful about using such labels and consider instead sitting down with these groups to try to understand what has driven them to organise such events.
Many people have understandable preconceptions about the nature of these protesters. They may think them violent and racist, and sitting down with them may be an intimidating prospect. But I refer you to Voltaire: "I may disapprove of what you say, but I will defend to the death your right to say it." The home secretary, Theresa May, must adopt the same approach across the board. If we don't listen openly, we will not explore avenues that might lead to a better conclusion, and we could drive views underground.
We expected about 20 people, at most, at the mosque last weekend, but Twitter and Facebook helped us attract between 150 and 200. The overwhelming majority were non-EDL members saying: "Wait a second. We're white, we're British and we don't want the EDL to speak on our behalf." That was very humbling and showed that common sense brings people together.
And so we showed it is possible to find a place where we can communicate. We all need to meet in a space that is above and beyond our differences and discover our similarities. We all love our children and care about their future. If we do not work together they are in possible jeopardy – there are very good reasons for us to work hard to find a way forward. We all need to learn from one another.
Tea, like many things we may think of as being English, has been adopted from other cultures, originating in China. Our language includes words from almost every tongue on the planet. Likewise our food, our music, our science, our medicine, our sports (including football) and so on. Even Saint George, whose flag the EDL use so proudly, is patron saint of many nations and may have his origin in Palestine.
We should remember the Muslims who served this country with great dignity and courage through two world wars, and those who are in our armed forces and police. And those who work hard for this country and contribute to its economy and wealth. It would be wise to think of where they stand on some of these issues.
The messages from Lee Rigby's family that he would not want his death to be used as an excuse for reprisals, and that the culture and religion of his friends made no difference to him, sets an example for us all. This weekend, to all those who want to characterise Muslims as this, or all EDL members as that, I say: sit down with a cup of tea and don't shout at each other. Listen. And hear.
U2 Mixing New Album In NYC With Danger Mouse?
U2 Mixing New Album In NYC With Danger Mouse?
Written by Sarah Bella on 1st June, 2013
U2 have finished recording their new album, the follow-up to 2009′s No Line On The Horizon, and are currently mixing in New York City with producer Danger Mouse, according to reports, after three members of the band were spotted in NYC, most notably Bono outside Electric Lady Studios.
@U2 are saying that recording of the new album is done and dusted, with a playback happening last week. Tweets from Island Records head Chris Blackwell seem to confirm this, with the honcho saying “Listened to some new music at Electric Lady Land studios earlier with U2 and Danger Mouse #betterthanever”. Blackwell has since deleted the tweet.
Globe journo Brad Wheeler added fuel to the fire, sharing quotes from former Daniel Lanois, who produced The Joshua Tree and Achtung Baby amongst other U2 records. Lanois seems to have sat out of production duties this time around but has heard the new material, with Wheeler tweeting “Lanois tells me Bono dropped by his house in LA and that the new U2 album sounds ‘amazing’ and ‘big’, with some Achtung Baby adventurism”.
Sounds pretty promising, considering Bono confirmed that band were working on lucky album number 13 back in January, but the frontman also warned us not to hold our breath, stating that the band didn’t care if it took 10 years to get the album right.
U2's New Album Is 'Amazing' And 'Big' According To Daniel Lanois
Acclaimed producer Daniel Lanois seems to be sitting out the current studio work U2 is undertaking towards their new album, but he's listened to the album and seems quite impressed.
Lanois was interviewed by Globe and Mail music journalist Brad Wheeler who tweeted some of the information gleaned from Lanois Wednesday evening
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Saturday, June 01, 2013
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