Wednesday, February 05, 2020
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When you communicate. (A challenge for you here)
When you communicate.
(A challenge for you here)
Notice if you point your finger.
Notice if you have open palms.
The former is someone usually 'telling' someone
with an attitude called 'parent state'.
Often words spilling from the 'pointed finger person'
are words like 'should' and 'aught'.
(are you such a person?)
The person at the other end of the pointed finger
will often feel as a
'put down'
or feel like they are being spoke down to - being
'PUT DOWN' is not a nice feeling.
This language of body and verbal,
can trigger feelings from childhood
and can feel vulnerable and sometimes anger -
I have often seen violence from such a situation.
I have had so much experience of violence AND
I HATE IT !
The latter
THE PALM PERSON
often speaks with softer words, warmer tones of the voice
with facial expressions that mirror the body language.
A Palm Person does not 'put down' or 'belittle'.
A Palm Person will often speak of their own feelings
and definitely NOT use the words 'should and aught'.
If you notice what your body is doing when
you are communicating
you will be becoming more aware of yourself -
always a great journey it seems to me.
Often it is easier to notice the above in another persons
body language
because when we communicate
we can get so caught up in the emotion that we don't read well!
IF
you do get to the point of recognition of your own communication
AND
wish to journey into change ............
It all starts from the inside.
The soul.
The Centre of your beautiful self.
We cannot just control our physical language,
it must come from a condition of the heart.
Social, emotional and spiritual learning
is all part of the journey into wholeness.
AND
it starts with observation, awareness and a desire to
L O V E
BHP
I love this quote from a favourite author:: Anne Lamott
“I remind myself nearly every day of something that a doctor told me six months before my friend Pammy died.... ‘Watch her carefully right now,’
she said,
‘because she’s teaching you how to live.’”
she said,
‘because she’s teaching you how to live.’”
~@ANNELAMOTT
Saturday, February 01, 2020
Usually put down statements start with the word "you......"
I sometimes I get putdowns.
I have had a lot in my life.
From older humans
from younger humans.
Sometimes deliberate.
Sometimes just poor communication skills.
It is normal to warm to humans
who are good to be with
who offer freely human warmth and affirmation.
I used to warm to these people - only.
Now I warm to those who are
nasty, aggressive and/or put me down.
An obnoxious person is a hurting person.
They need love more than the former.
Fear of rejection sometimes rejects people first.
'I will do it before I get hurt'.
'You can't hurt me' syndrome.
Usually put down statements
start with the word
"you......".
'You made me feel .....'
'You make me sick.....'
YOU
It is a finger pointing word like
'should' and 'aught' .
(I never use those two words -
alternatives can be saught.)
Putting down, or being aggressive
is usually accompanied by a pointed finger.
When we see a pointed finger
feel the feelings feeling in interior self.
wonder - what that person feels like inside.
wonder
feel it.
Empathy - even with the put-downer ..........
Also there are people who are warm to
and
I yearn for them developmentally.
I yearn that they can become warm with others
of differing natures and personalities.
It comes from within.
As with all communication.
From the heart.
To love the lovely is great.
To love the unlovely*
is a real challenge to all of us in our development.
I notice those I warm to, and others not as easy.
So principles kick in.I am off.
-wish-you-wonder-/-you-are-beautiful-
*so called
BHP
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