Saturday, May 24, 2014

Great #Game for #BBQ #Camp or outdoor #Party FUN FUN #FUN

Friday, May 23, 2014

It's about to KICK-OFF - managing aggression and violence.

The most vital situation for people workers like myself,

is when it is about to kick off.

I am talking about aggression and violence.

Many of the people I have worked with over the years face daily

CONFLICT SITUATIONS

when their own transactions can make a situation worse

OR calm it down.

It is vital that people are under constant support and regular training when such work includes risk to the worker or the offender.

It is always starts with how we behave emotionally.

It is always about managing our own emotions

which then enables us to manage the person about to KICK_OFF!

LINK:: to my work in this area. HERE

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FEELINGS - they are all your feelings.

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Two people popping up above the surface like an iceberg and I don't want to be the Titanic.

I don't know how to start.

Two people on my heart and more.

But two people popping up above the surface 

like an iceberg ....

................... and I don't want to be the Titanic. 

***

1 Obnoxious behaviour.

Language mostly. 

Coming right out of the soul. 

-I believe that an obnoxious person is a hurting person. 

-I believe that this human is valuable and precious. 

The big issue,

apart from all the other things you know about my beliefs, - 

is my behaviour (MY BEHAVIOUR) and 

response to this number one human before me. 

I have emotions when I see the 'under the influence' eyes. 

I have feelings when the aggression spits from the lips. 

I am sensitive about my emerging negative reaction

to the words which are at the opposite end of the spectrum to my own. 

I made an un-requested verbal observation to the person

about the behaviour. 

Not normal for me. 

One affirmative. 

One suggesting to the person that there is violence within. 

At the worst this could have been received as criticism. 

At the best as a gentle observation about violent words and negative attitudes. 

If this person starts to respect me and feel/see/hear that there is love here available ......

..... I have a better chance to hear and be heard. 

Better chance for all humans around to work together for their own development. 

A move is when an opinion is asked by this person - to me.

That happened and that is a sign of emerging respect. 

There has been, for the first time, exchanges of positive words. 

There has been also a disclosure of confidential information 

about crime, violence and even revenge. 

So you may get my approach towards this human. 

I want to build a mutual, non-hierarchical relationship. 

Age and role and status and chemical interference 

are not the issue. 

Only the development of both of us, 

because as I wrestle to understand and communicate, 

I will experience massive learning ...

.... of such is the Kingdom ....... 

I feel much better reflecting.

I feel the person is including me in communications, 

in confidentiality. 

I see a move. 

A prayed for a move. 

I await a coming closer and maybe, 

just maybe, 

there may be a a way that I can become responsible to 

(not responsible for)

 ............... this beautiful human. 

***

2 When you have a background knowledge of a person.

When you have sat close 

and felt the volcano within 

ready to erupt, 

I have feelings. 

There has been a terrible childhood and 

not terrible parents 

BUT horrific behaviour by parents. 

When the person tells me they want to talk 

but also says that if they do ....

... they will 'lose it'. 

When that person then walks away 

across a four way road junction 

and not bothering or caring about the busy traffic ....

..... I have deep concern. 

When the message is that, 

after some smoked crack, 

the person is coming to get someone...... 

I have real cause for concern. 

This is a bit heavy I am aware.

But it is real. 

It is all related to what I want to do. 

It is part of not being at the centre and safe. 

It is part of being away from the centre - on the edge. 

I cannot be clearer because of confidentiality.

I am glad I do what I do.

I am struggling but I accept that.

Sometimes I don't and I love that -

the struggle that is! 

....................... there is beauty in becoming.

The most beautiful flower,

for me, 

is the one which pops up 

through a crack in the concrete. 

pipBHPbecoming

'Games Without Frontiers' my first #GAMES BOOK

1988 - The release of my first games book

GAMES WITHOUT FRONTIERS

Out of print for some years now.

Ever popular - still sought after by Youth Workers, Camp organisers, party people and anyone wanting some FUN and purpose because .......

BECAUSE it is full of Games and purposeful developmental experiential exercises too!

I am in the last throws of my latest book, maybe my last?, but I would love to republish this one - MUST have a word with my editor!!

A damn good idea

Wednesday, May 21, 2014