Urination
....... difficulties occur, says research, when men are in a crowded context.
We can all imagine the toilets at a big sports event ....... men and women.
Urination is slower when men are in a crowded space.
It is all down to tension/stress.
Social Psychology research also tells us that humans in crowded contexts;
- men are more aggressive
- women are more socially supportive - more eye contact and self revelation.
We are all aware of the physical impact of emotions.
Our body responds to the changes in our emotions.
..... sometimes ...... we blush ..... we pump adrenaline .......... sweat on the brow ...... weak knees ...... loose bowels ..... and more ...... do you agree?
What am I going on about - you ask .....
The Guardian, today, permitted one of it's writers to slag off the Department of Education and Skills recent advisory documents which have just been sent to over 6000 Primary schools. This is because the issue is about managing emotions.
It seems to me that this area of life is a massive issue and rightly needs some work done in schools. Today in the press the issue of 'self harm' is highlighted. A good example of 'feelings driving harmful behaviour'. My life of working with young offenders has convinced me that the inability of humans to manage emotions, and even understand them, has delivered a massive culture of aggressive and violent behaviour which ruins the lives of many - including the offenders.
Back in 1979 I produced a study on the subject of 'Emotional Deprivation' because the issue was a big one in my Youth Work.
The biggest one.
I was working with street gangs in the East End of London at the time and my first book 'Gutter Feelings' came out of this work and the reflections on it. I saw big time violence on a daily basis and was convinced that it was all about social injustice and an inability to do anything positive with the mangled emotions inside these young beautiful humans.
Beautiful Humans Hurting.beautiful Humans lashing out.Beautiful Humans in catharsis.
Much of my work as a Trainer comes down to how humans manage emotions - in relationships - related to tasks - pressure - skills - awareness - response to 'difficult behaviour' - and not the least, how to develop self esteem and value others.
"I found that when I got to grips with my feelings, or started to,
I began to grow as a human person.
I often say I became an adult at the age (about) forty years old.
That was part of my journey inward.
The opening and the owning of those vivid things which seem to influence life so powerfully ...... negative or positive." Pip Wilson
"The unreflected life is not worth living" Socrates
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