Mothers Day has past.
I am still listening to
DJ's still talking about the day.
Leading courses of the years
I have met so many humans
who have a priority in life
'Not to be like their Mother'.
I remember one woman telling me
about her oppression
= her Mother.
She felt she had to go and visit her.
She was forty+ years old
yet she felt like a child
when she was with her Mother.
We worked the group through
using different awareness exercises
developing skills in this emotional world.
Sometimes called
Emotional Literacy.
Sometimes called
Emotional Intelligence.
One of my favourite questions
to you,
to anyone who allows me close,
is
"When did you become an adult?"
My answer is
when I was forty I became an adult.
I remember visiting my Mother shortly afterwards.
I held her hand - checked how long
a pinch of skin took to settle down
on the back of her hand.
When she told me to get a hair cut -
I said to her
"Mother - I am forty now -
I am keeping an eye on my hair
every morning
and I will decide ........."
And because I was smiling and looking into her eyes
and so close - it was a great moment.
It was me who had stepped out into independence.
It was an emotional thing.
Me managing my emotions
NOT controlling them,
but managing them without hurting another.
I hope the Sheilas don't want to be like me.
I regret so much of the Father I have been.
Not with dread -
I always tried my best midst the emotional inadequacy.
Temper. Shouting. Irritation. What a mess (sometimes).
I have asked them to forgive me - some years ago.
They said they would.
I don't want them to be like me.
Maybe take parts.
Definitely leave out chunks!
The main thing
the main thing
the MAIN thing -
is that they decide ..................
Oppression is a terrible thing.
Freedom is a wonderful experience.
Please don't oppress your children
or anyone else's
for such is the Kingdom of God
