... what a fab title for an album .....
Jazzland Community
...... a MUST buy ............

...... for me ........

1. Kordial - Bugge Wesseltoft
2. Fabrikk - Bugge Wesseltoft
3. Electro Magnetic In E - Eivind Aarset
4. Connectic - Eivind Aarset
5. Sweden - Hakon Kornstad
6. Slow Song - Sidsel Endresen
7. Western Wind - Sidsel Endresen
8. Downwind - Various
9. Preparation - Various

I love Norway I love Norwegians I wonder if I will ever be invited back.

Gilles my favourite DJ was in Bergen, Norway, on Monday and I moan inwardly.

And a little grrrr

Why was he not there when I was.

Favourite place - favourite DJ.

Strawberries AND Cream!

Thanx Tobias for hanging out with me in your town.

Showing me around Bergen.

Food and a drink.

And much beautiful Level Five conversation.

Loveitloveit .....

Cinematic Orchestra.

Major impact on ears - soul - life ............and this band have a new album out and I am awaiting the delivery.

I never recommend a restaurant or a holiday destination, not even Bergen, but I am biting my tongue when it comes to the Cinematics.

Think I need to do a week of their older vibes for you on my PiPod.

Have played 2 or 3 here from the new album already.

Catcha groove and see if you like .......

The Sheilas bought me an iPod Nano for my birthday.

I have a Shuffle and a 40 gig old one but I desired this 2 gig one for my constant lightweight commuting.

So this is a three iPod pipod clicking to ya ..........

I lurve Bergen .......

Think with me here::

At a party ....... interesting how some humans say hello and move away in almost a rush.

Politely-programmed in saying hello and then, with appropriate speed, ...... moving on.....

More important humans to talk to eh?

Have you ever been at a party and felt trapped talking to one person and with earshot there is a group having a fantastic discussion and a good laugh about it too?

Want to be there with them?

I feel these things too ....... but I have decided I want to be with the human I am with .....

I love Norway

I love Norwegians

I wonder if I will ever be invited back.

I have enough work to keep my soul burning hot here in the UK

and I don't want to go there on holiday

but I do get excited with the challenge of working there ................. and enjoy the minutes of holiday in between too!

Big John once asked me::

"Do you ever lose your cool - I have never seen you lose it?"

I don't now.

I used to.

I used to flame up and have a foul temper.

Once, when we lived in a little flat above a a seven days a week back street Youth Club ......... we used to stay open until two am to cater for all the young drinkers when they left the pub at 11pm.

Once, as I was saying, I 'lost it' and pulled a picture off our flat wall and smashed it to bits.

I was so shocked.

Where did that come from?

It really did get me to think and wrk differently .......... and more .....

It was tension and inadequacy.

Now I am not like that ..................

other than still got inadequacy of a differing kind ......

A couple of weeks ago I experienced a surge of real strong agitation.

My iMac was running slow - gets on my stinking nerves sometimes ........ grrr

Joan and I had taken a day off and I was trying to finish some 'work' - yes on my day off!!!!

A couple of other things happened and I felt that surge.

It took me by surprise.

This is the stuff of high blood pressure - I thought.

As I drove away I was telling Joan about the feeling.

It stayed with me for about an hour.

It died slowly.

I was doing an analysis on it.

I had not felt that for a long time so I was trying to get in touch with the feelings.

Agitation - not angry

- irritation - not rage ..........

I thought that some humans feel like that a lot.

Many times even.

This stuff would make me ill ................ I thought.

There was a trigger or more

There was the feelings.

There was a job needed to manage those feelings ........ not explode them out

or implode them in ......

Wow - what damage could be done if they were capped like a volcano - wow ....... what if they came out and poured molten piplava all over those around me .....

Only this week ...... I led a role play in which every human in the room was involved.

The feelings were powerful.

All of us had them.

Real feelings - tears and sadness - (flowed mingled down) .......... it was powerful and yet the three role-plays lasted less than a minute each !!

It was all about feeling dem feelings and then doing analysis on them.

It was an exercise so we could learn from it.

So many humans are scared of feelings.

Love the great ones of course - we all do.

But run like hell and hide from the ugly ones.

Force them underground.

I believe feelings are signals.

Signals tell us that we need to do something.

Signals to journey into .........

Do you stop at a red light?

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Hi ........ thanx for clicking this way at the end of the week ....... and a note to you out there who are Monday to Friday types - you are beautiful too.

This week I blogged about individuals like you and me ....... and I did think, before I started, that I would be churning over my soul about groups ....... they are so important to me.
I have had a fab time this week amongst groups and I love it love it.

I feel that the stuff that dribbled out of my mouth through my fingers onto the keys, was quiet good - it excited me anyway ....

Out-take::
The words out of our mouth (7%)
The expression on our face(55%)
The motion and shape of our human frame(38%)
Can tell others they are beautiful
or
that they are
distasteful
boring
valueless
valuable
precious
............. and all what we believe ......
(see the rest of it below)

That's what happens ...... I start to click and things come out as I reflect on life-lived.

This week I became aware that I change my inner drive when I am am prepping and getting in the groove. I prep for a facilitated session for days before, in that it is always on my mind. I make notes in my little day book or on the numerous A5 pads which hang around Wilson Mansions. They end up in a section file sooner or later. The big prep is done the day before - ideally. Often it has to be done several days before when I am back-to-back 'working out', not just 'working in'.

My total session notes are always on a single sheet of A5.
I pour over my notes - adding details as I walk through every detail of the process. If this is a day training course, several hours, all that process is in a mind map 'keyword' system. The detail is in my soul. As I drive to the gig, or commute on the tubes and trains ......... I again focus on the notes and think every step. Often every word is spoken in my head.

I am in a driving mode - total focus. The take-over shuts all other life issues down. I don't feel stress. The worst pressure happens before I prepare. Now I am just toning my soul and spirit to give 100% with passion. Ideally not intense - but passionate.

But then - when I have finished one gig - my mind switches to the next one.

I connected with myself this week - during all that focusing.
I peeped in on myself.
I don't think I am sociable before the gig.
I am tired when is ends.

It is good to look at yourself.
A lot to learn .....

Like this::

I am the opposite to boring
I am the opposite to depressing
I am the opposite to ugly
I am the opposite to stupid
I am the opposite to successful
I am the opposite to smart
I am the opposite to intelligent
I am the opposite to rich
I am the opposite to frozen
I am the opposite to perfect
I am the opposite to complete
I am the opposite to settled
I am the opposite to content
I am the opposite to being
I am the opposite to hard
I am the opposite to silent
I am the opposite to paused
I am the opposite to country
I am the opposite to still
I am the opposite to death
I am the opposite to
I am the opposite to
I am the opposite to
I am the opposite to
I am the opposite to
I have left some blanks for you to complete?


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...... here I am at Wilson Mansions ...... tired after a busy day and feeling good and with some depth of satisfaction.

First day with a group of beautiful humans who I will be spending time with for seven weeks - seven days and I love - lurve that longevity of working with a group.

So much satisfaction. Such a thrill to be getting to know - journeying together - discovery - learning - meeting - being - becoming .........

I feel good about a few things.
A monthly article in a magazine - more details later ..........
More work and mission around the country and maybe around the globe ............
Book soon to be published, but a bit worried about the progress .. ...........
Possibility of some group work at the point of extreme need .......
A new Laptop which is in possession but what do I do with it to get it to be my servant - hell - I feel inadequate .....
Music around me, and within me, that shakes my core .....
Love and yearning from being with the Sheilas last night .. .. ............
A challenge to design and deliver a years courses for 140 humans .........
Delight at being young ........
Delight that you read my blog .. .. .......
Delight that I remain passionate . .......
Delight that you share your hurts with me as well as your delights .....
Cointreau ........
Delight in a depth of spirituality that is 1% but on a journey .. .... ... .............
...... and I light a little cigar and say thanxxxxxxxxxxx


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............. B e a u t i f u l H u m a n s ...

....we-are-all-unique - individuals. Agree?
We are all beautiful in our uniqueness. Agree?
We are all imperfection in our uniqueness. Agree?

Are you beautiful?
Are you imperfection?
Which do you find it easier to agree with?

Do you feel beautiful?
Do you feel imperfection?
Which one do you feel most?
Beautiful
or
imperfection?

Feelings are signals which give messages
about our life
and behaviour
in that life.

7% of that behavioural life is words
the rest is NVC
(non-verbal communication)
i.e. 55% is in the face!

The main thing,
pipology here,
Is that we 'own' our feelings.
Meaning
"I have feelings - what are they -
arrr hmmmmmm
Yes - I feel frustrated" (example)

Then THEN
and only then
can we manage our feelings and decide what sort of human we want to be because it is our feelings that can control our behaviour, by default, unless our central management system is switched on - meaning our thought/evaluating/value system.

Then
The words out of our mouth (7%)
The expression on our face(55%)
The motion and shape of our human frame(38%)
Can tell others they are beautiful
or
that they are
distasteful
boring
valueless
valuable
precious
............. and all what we believe ......

It
All starts with clocking those precious,
but not always nice to feel,
Feelings .....

You are beautiful right now
unconditionally
right now ....

When you work with people who have had massive disasters in their childhoods
followed by later crippling blows,
it is something special to hear their stories.


Beautifully so,
I can see people moving and are progressing in their emotional life.
Some of them building on that self knowledge and growing in stature.
I love it
and it means I am reaching out and being touched by a shalom finger tip.

I experience beauty and pain and refuse neither.

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I am a group worker.
My chosen work -
I am employed to do this ........ it is group work and I love it.

Few of us are not part of a Team or Group and I am counting 'family' as our primary group.

We are educated as a member of a group.
Worship
Play
Work
Family
We often learn most by soaking information in like a sponge.

Social Capital::
Our quality of life depends on our networks with other humans.
The groups and teams which we belong to are vital for our growth and self esteem.
How we relate to these teams depends on our personal skills and our stated, or un-stated, personal mission. (See my Mission Statement)

We all have a style of how we relate to other humans and we don't have to retain the one we use at the moment. We can change. Develop. Become.

When I conduct training courses I often use an 'experiential style'.

1 We learn best, it seems to me, when we are personally involved. That is why I say 'motion changes emotion'. We respond when our emotions become alive. We can be stirred by an activity. We can be stirred by a transaction with another.

2 If knowledge is discovered by our own experiences - it then is more able to be applied to living life.
If we are 'told' about it - it can just be words. Words are only 7% of communication. We need them but we need to live beyond them.

3 Commitment is highest when we set our own objectives/goals/targets. Participation is in the hands of the powerful. For the rest of us - we need skill to participate. Skills are for learning.

4 A good course gives reflective time before it ends to::
- reflect on the experience, the concepts and ideas raised in the experience and
- concrete naming of the steps which the individual has decided to take.

How do humans change?
This is a Quote out of my first book 'Gutter Feelings'.

Humans change when one or more of the following happens::

1. Slow despair, boredom.

2. They hurt sufficiently.

3 The sudden discovery that they can.

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