How do I get through.How do I engage
How do design a learning experience
How do I start where they are at
How do I help to burst a bubble around beautiful humans
who are exhibiting difficult behaviour?
We can see a persons behaviour
but we cannot see their experience.
How can bubble wrapped humans unwrap?
How can we take a lifetime of clothes off?
How can the dressings, covering insecurity, be peeled off?
Addressing the insecurity is the big one.
literacy
|ˈlitərəsē; ˈlitrə-|
noun
the ability to read and write.
• competence or knowledge in a specified area :
Competence is different than knowledge.
We may have knowledge
about::
how it works
how to do it.
But competency is about
bolting on life skills
bolting on emotional intelligence
bolting on a belief that choices can be made.
All can only be made by an individual.
And, I believe, in the context of a group/community.
I like this model::
Phases of Development
i) Unconsciously incompetent
ii) Consciously incompetent
iii) Consciously competent
iv) Unconsciously competent
I am struggling here with ii) Consciously incompetent
and how to bridge the gap to reach iii) Consciously competent.
With behaviour as an issue, a big task is to start with something really interesting for them, engaging for them. Then to keep that engagement to reach a level of emotional engagement. Emotional literacy is the objective. Life choosing to change is the next step. Change must be chosen. It can never be imposed. Behaviour we see, the issues are inside. Inside these beautiful humans.
In my life mission I have facilitated many experiences where this has happened.
Humans stepping outside comfort zones
where growth and development reside.
I have seen and felt bubbles burst.
I feel deep Joy/thrill/satisfaction about these.
The challenge is infertile ground
totally hard, defensive, insecure behaviour.
(Behaviour is driven by
unconsciously incompetent management of emotions)
New challenges for me.
New humans before me.
Not able to do long term work with them
as with my projects in the past.
I only have sessional times with them.
Sometimes only one.
Can I ask you a question?
If this bubble bursting has happened for you.
You have done this.
How did it happen?
How have you seen it happen in your life,
and I am talking about self and others.
Let me know
It would be appreciated
and, I believe, good for you too.
I believe ....................
