Tuesday, November 03, 2009


Sometimes a friend is hit with a big thing
a big feeling
they are blocked
don't know what to do
what to say.

You want to help
It is beautiful that your friend
has a great friend like you
who wants to help.

The best thing for anyone is to talk it out.
Talk, not hold it inside until it explodes.
Same with all big issues.
We can be so superficial with conversation that,
when there is something big hits us,
something which really wounds us,
we don't know how to talk about it.
The best is if they talk with someone trained like a Counsellor.
Doctors provide them now too.

You can help by::
share your own feelings about something which troubles you.
Even though you may not need to.
Even though it is difficult - it is beautiful.
THEN
that gives them permission to express what troubles them.

You could discover a new way,
a new level, of talking with your friend

which is beautiful.

Just listen.
Just encourage the friend to talk more
Don't give advice
Ask more questions
It will be appreciated
even if it is tough.

Learn about 'Level Five' by practicing it.