You have already
looked at the group
of five on your right.
At first glance
they look good,
all in a huddle.
A closer look
reveals that one is unhappy.
55% of communication
is in the face.
Question to you -
why the unhappy face?
40% of communication
is in the rest of the body.
*
Look at the eyes.
Eyes are the light to the soul,
the Bible says.
They are also
the biggest pointer,
even more than the fingers!
All the eyes are on one person.
All in communication
with that single person.
All heads are turned that way.
At least one speaking to her/him.
The unhappy Blob
is included in the hug
but feels something.
The Blob is in the circle
but has one foot back.
Maybe wanting to escape?
Feelings are signals
and we decide what to do
with the signal
if we have developed
our emotional intelligence.
There could be several
reasons/signals/feelings
which are inside the Blob.
What could they be?
*
The Bob could be jealous
of this attention being given to another.
There may be a previous agenda.
Maybe a relationship upset.
Maybe an argument.
Maybe a feeling of inadequacy -
or lack of self esteem.
Maybe having a bad day.
If you were a member of that group,
what would you do to be a
helping friend
as the group breaks from the circle?
*
Awareness is always first.
If we do not observe
we cannot do anything
from our insensitive base.
I would give an extra hug
as the group broke.
An individual hug
with eye contact
and positive words.
An offer of a 1 to 1 chat,
having a drink together
to the side of things
but not extracting the person
from the wider community.
No pushing,
robust questioning.
Only sensitive easing.
What can we learn from this?
This is using a 'still' picture.
Moving bodies in
real life interactions
are more difficult to read.
We can develop,
forever,
the awareness and skill
to communicate better
which is, I believe,
what love is about
to love humans -
the highest of the high.
Blobs, being neither
male nor female,
young nor old,
black nor white -
and are good for
training/learning.
Better! is doing this with others,
real exercises,
learning from everyone around.
This what I do when I work with groups.
Emotional intelligence, Emotional Literacy,
and wholistic growth and development.
If you have other observations
or comments about this little
exercise -
please pass them on because
I yearn to learn from you.
And
no matter
how you feel >>>>
you are beautiful.
