Friday, November 28, 2008
The Dangers of NOT
sitting.
A thought - when we get a feeling that we don't want to sit down and talk to someone - that is a dangerous place to be.
Emotional literacy, being in touch with our feelings, is the first step in all this.
We need to feel first. Feel all the time.
We all have trouble just sitting quietly
if we're experiencing powerful emotions
or we are in 'task'.
That's because the body is riddled with emotion
and is in a state of is in a 'call to action'.
These are the times when we listen least,
awareness is diminished, and we can fail to love.
Also, when we are frightened, the awareness part of us,
in terms of clocking our feelings,
temporarily shuts down.
We are distracted by random thoughts when danger threatens.
We are flooded with the adrenaline because we need to fight or take flight.
Another option, automatic in humans,
is to freeze, to be absolutely still and become "invisible."
The number one - when it comes to developed behaviour,
is to be aware of our feelings, at all times,
when they are starting to move from 'normal' everyday feelings.
So - when we are in task,
going somewhere - a meeting to attend - a task to do - an emotional fix - a worry about something,
and someone wants to talk to us,
THAT/THESE are the times we can offer rejection not love.
These are the times when we don't have time.
If you feel that you cannot sit down when talking to someone
- wow - danger danger.
Do you clock this?
Is it making sense?