Wednesday, June 03, 2015

There is no such thing as perfect parents.

Parents have such incredible power 
to confirm and influence the inner life of the child. 

Identity is fashioned in the inner life. 
The child's sensibility is like a sponge. 
It absorbs everything. 

Without knowing it, 
we drink in the voices of our parents at that stage. 
We have not yet developed any kind of filter 
to sift the creative from the destructive. 

There is no such thing as perfect parents. 
Without wanting to, and often 
without knowing it, 
all parents leave some little trail of negativity for their children; 
this belongs naturally to life's ambivalence. 

There is never anything absolutely pure in the valley of tears, 
but we still love our parents in their imperfection. 

As Robert Frost says, 
"We love the things we love for what they are.” 

-- John O'Donohue;
 Eternal Echoes.