..... in the midst of running sessions I often refer to the question
'When did you become an adult'?
The reason is - if change and development is to take place in a persons life
it needs an inside job.
My answer to the question is
- my answer is .......... when I was around 40.
All my life till then
I had been going through life thinking
If only I was good looking .....
If only I was intelligent .....
If only I was educated .....
If only I wasn't fat .....
If only .........
My answer to the question was
40
That is when I accepted myself.
That is when the BHP thing came.
You are a beautiful human person.
I accepted myself as I was
God had
and now
so
I faced reality.
Self acceptance - heard of it?
Later the 'beautiful imperfection' concept came
we are all beautiful
all imperfect
beautiful - all differently
imperfection - all differently.
I mentioned recently
about having a personality test
all that is part of trying to understand myself
understanding myself is part of knowing
and accepting myself - right now - not just what I am potentially.
Acceptance is about love
loving unconditionally
not just about 'I will accept you if you become ........ '
Peanuts, the cartoon character Charlie Brown said ::
"The greatest suffering in life is to have great potential".
I believe that one of the most vital first steps in all this
now
and every step through life
is
to fully and freely accept our feelings
be in close touch with them
name them
"I feel frustrated ......" for instance
" I feel angry ....... " for another instance.
When we are fully and freely in touch with our feelings
we can then use that as a platform to deliver the behaviour appropriate for the situation we are in.
We can then 'become' a more response-able human
adult.
It is said
that you only
know
and
love
five
persons in your life
couldn't one of them be you?
.
