Big Brother
Dynamics in the House.
I hear and see lots of bitching.
Mutterings in small groups.
All this happens in teams in every context. When I see or when I am briefed about a problem in a team - it is usually symptomatic that there are activities - always whispering in corners. A favourite place develops, in every workplace, where whispering is conducted. It could be called bitching and muttering! Professionals do this - yes and I guess it is your experience too?
The contra to that is when there are rows. (Don't they happen in families too?) Sometime, no - often, the behaviour is just those two types = fight or flight. Rowing or whispering in small groups.
Both are::
1 Dishonesty.
2 A results of a lack of tools in the toolbox. Not deliberate choices to be nasty or bitchy. It is a deprivation it seems to me. We all suffer from deprivations.
"If we only have a hammer we see every problem as a nail".
Me - I instantly warm to some humans and others I feel the sandpaper - yes I feel the abrasiveness of some humans.
"We never have a second chance to make a first impression."
Then I am aware of feelings inside. I am emotional. Sensitive. Feel it - the positive and the negative.
I try to understand the behaviour and what is behind it. Their feelings. Their behaviour.
Sometimes, not often, I back off. I believe in everyone's autonomy and my own. Most of the time I go for risk. I will go and sit with the loudest group. I will talk to hooded young humans standing on a street corner. I will look out for the isolate.
I know I have boundaries. Working in residential work for many years - you have to be able to do that to survive. So I go out and give my all - then I retreat to recover.
I still do that.
Just a little late night reflection. Trying to reflect on behaviour - mine and other beautiful humans.
No matter what your behaviour is like - or your feelings - you are beautiful.
