Friday, February 22, 2013

Emeli Sande, Brit Awards, Vulnerability = Level Five communication.

"Your problem is how you are going to spend 
this one and precious life you have been issued. 
Whether you're going to spend it trying to look good 
and creating the illusion that you have power over circumstances, 
or whether you are going to taste it, 
enjoy it and find out the truth about who you are."
Anne Lamott

I watched the BRIT AWARDS this week.
I am seriously into music.
I always say that 
words are for the mind
music is for the soul!
I am a soul man!

Emeli Sande won the award for the best British Album.
Sande's debut album 
'Our Version Of Events' 
was the most popular album of 2012 in the UK, 
selling 1.4 million copies.

I came alive when I heard her acceptance speech.
She said something like this as she accepted the best album statuette::
Sande spoke of herself as "a very unlikely pop star".
"This is an album I wrote because I didn't have the confidence to say these things in person." 
"For me, that so many people have connected with this album and found strength in these words 
makes me feel incredible and it doesn't make me feel as lonely."

This is SO Level Five - sharing vulnerabilities 
not just in a 121 situation but in public. 
I believe it is so emotionally intelligent.
The pop music industry, 
along with other 'celebrity' sub-cultures,
is so prone to superficiality - 
not joining the dots between the 
inner person and the outer person, 
who is on display, human.

Level Five
L5 communication is all about being open and honest.
It is about revealing ourselves.
It is about self revelation.

"Why am I afraid to tell you who I am"?
My favourite book
about working through why we block our revealing to others
and it is about looking at the damage done if we do not reveal.

A lack of self revelation in communication
will lead to a unrealistic and unproductive self image.
Being aware that we are not revealing ourselves
can greatly diminish you self esteem - self worth.

If we don't reveal
let it out
it will stay in
the damage is
interior damage
what goes on inside
shows up on the

There are two sorts of humans
The revealers
the concealers.

It is a decision
a journey
not an instant

Concealer journey?
Revealer journey?
Level five journey?
Level three journey?

I am thinking about L.5. things - the concept really.
It is a good tool for me and the group I belong to 
- since 1980 ..... 32 years. 

(If you don't know the Level Five concept - 
the best way would be search in this website above 'THE BEAUTY WITHIN'
- which searches my blog archives and will give several briefings.)

L.5. It is good to use as a tool with humans who are special 
- and who have special needs too.
It is also a good practical tool for you too.

I find the educated and the professionals 
are often the ones who are hiding behind their abilities and skills - 
charm and personality, 
and many more, too!
Count me in too!

Ghandi was once asked, from all his tough life, persecution and violence against the person, 
what would be the worst experience he had ever encountered?
He said; "The hardheartedness of the educated"

Listen up folks ..........
... it seems to me that WE can be the hard hearted 
- the mask wearers 
- the the Level one, two and three pretenders. 
We - Me!
(1= cliche 2=Facts 3=Opinions)

Unless we tell who we are, 
hiding behind insecurity and inadequate-ness, 
we will never enjoy the fruits of openness and freedom. 

In their rawness I have been working with young humans
who are on the edge of existence. 
A number failed to exist.
The have to let the pain out ...
... through self revelation.

What do we do?

This is a poem/quote, below, I have taken it from somewhere ???
This touches my soul today so ...
.... I will leave it with you as a lever ....
... a lever to prod and probe the crack in your soul .....
... you never know what will leak out ...............
................. or leak in!

Time to go inward
 It's time to go inward take a look at myself
 Time to make the most of the time that I've got left
 Prison bars imagined are no less solid steel
Time to go inward would you believe that I'm afraid
To stare down the barrel of the choices I have made
The ghost of bad decisions make mountains out of everything I feel
Outside my window the wind weaves a path through the trees
The moon takes a shine to the shadows that fall on the leaves
It's time to go inward
I don't know if I can do it after all that I've become
I've been a fool for money but it's vanity that always leaves me flat
It's time to go inward man 
I hope I have the nerve
To take an inventory of the causes that I serve
They say a man without a conscience is like a man without a country
or something like that
It's time to go inward time to be still
If I don't do it now I don't believe I ever will
My mind is like a chatterbox whose noise pollutes the pathwaysto my soul
Time to go inward time to get a grip
Time to put an end to one long bad acid trip
I'm all out of excuses for the way I've let my choices take a toll
Jesus and Buddah and Krishna and Minnie Pearl knew
Do unto other the things you want done unto you
Time to go inward take a look at me
Try to make some sense of life's illusions that I see
Try to solve the riddle of what it is I have to offer to this world

~ Rodney Crowell"Fate's Right Hand"