Tuesday, September 10, 2013

"I reject the feelings of hate"

"I reject the feelings of hate"
Wife of church organist, Alan, who was murdered. 

Powerful statement of not allowing emotions to rule values. And I love this. She didn't say she had not felt hate - who wouldn't, but she rejected those feelings.
We all have feeling, which are signals, but it's what we do with them that matters.
We regret/dislike/hate some of our feelings but we can learn to manage them rather than react quickly when we have them SOMETIMES having a life long impact.
Feelings travel to the brain 4 times faster than thoughts so we need to become more and more aware of that as we grow in emotional intelligence. Then our values do the pruning to enable to behave and speak according to our thought out beliefs.


Maureen Greaves said: ''Alan... would not want any of us to hold on to feelings of hate and unforgiveness''



• Widow forgives organist killers

• Accused describes organist killing

• Man 'came to aid' of beaten organist
A 22-year-old man has been found guilty of the manslaughter of organist Alan Greaves on Christmas Eve in Sheffield.