Wednesday, June 20, 2018

READ THIS - young kids can. - We all need to be able to 'Read The Room' to be able to connect.

Child Abuse or, at least, child neglect.

Todays Version ............

Trump & his detaching of children from mothers & fathers - the most horrible with lasting impact on young lives.






A securely attached child will store an internal working model of a responsive, loving, reliable care-giver, and of a self that is worthy of love and attention and will bring these assumptions to bear on all other relationships. 
Conversely, an insecurely attached child may view the world as a dangerous place in which other people are to be treated with great caution, and see himself as ineffective and unworthy of love. 
These assumptions are relatively stable and enduring: those built up in the early years of life are particularly persistent and unlikely to be modified by subsequent experience.






BHP

Tuesday, June 19, 2018

TALK OUT or we will ACT OUT & that means more pain for everyone ...............

Blob Tree :: "Blobs are a very direct and yet unobtrusive way to help adolescents explore their feelings.”






"Blobs are deceptively simple figures, recognisably human and manifesting an extraordinary range of emotions and relationships. 
They are a very direct and yet unobtrusive way to help adolescents explore their feelings.”
Jill Aitkin, Canons High School Harrow London.
 
 
 
 
 

Blob Tree Communication Tools:: "Even the youngest children can come to own the images"





"Even the youngest children can come to own the images, 
finding in them Blobs that reflect their past and present circumstances 
and how they would like to be in the future.”
Sarah Davidson 
Slough Borough Council's Educational Psychology Service

Blob Playground
 
 
 
 
 
BHP

TUESDAY

Monday, June 18, 2018

This is a GAME but a Growth & Developmental game - beautiful for each individual & a group/team .......

I started to say to people 'You are Beautiful' back in 1980 38 years ago.




I started to say to people
'You are Beautiful'
back in 1980
38 years ago.

It was part of a poem I wrote back then.

I have always recorded/reflected on my life & work.
My writing & books have all come from 
Living stuff.
Doing stuff.
Learning stuff
and writing stuff to help me understand.

Reflective practice - late night mostly.
Not being able to sleep until
I got things out on paper.
By writing - I learn.

I have notes going back further than 38 years.
When I was 26 & residential in a Young Offenders unit.
A House-Father to 15 teenage boys.

When led a team working in a community
with bikers very present, every day & often late nights ......

When I worked in a hostel learning to love those in special need.
Running programmes which excited & engaged - often late night.
Bands, gigs, sports, week-ends away in remote locations.
Late night 121's

When I worked closely with gang members.
Group work = Gang work.
Living with violence & aggression.
Walking the edge.
Writing 'prose' - (someone once told me).

"You are beautiful" I would say
when the language was viciously disgusting.
You are beautiful
midst gangs armed with weapons to preparing to do damage to others.
You are beautiful
working with individuals with guns.
You are beautiful
facing uncontrollable rage & uncontrolled emotional streaming.

To be able to work with those displaying a range of behaviours & language
I had to learn to see through their behaviour 
to reach out to the hurting / wounded / scared / life-unskilled beautiful humans.

I am still learning here.
I still /see /hear /feel /negative FIRST before I can reach out & through
to the human & connect with their feelings driving their behaviour. 

You are beautiful ........
You may not agree with me
You may not like me
You may not respect me
You may have seen me at my worst
You may not want to get closer ..........

But I believe & want to work it out
why you are beautiful
&
why am I beautiful 
(the latter was only thrust upon me at the same time as I saw/felt your BEAUTIFUL.)




BHP

Sunday, June 17, 2018

“It’s like losing your father. It’s like becoming an orphan..............."







I had a meal in the YMCA Dining Room as I usually do.
I usually join a table of noisy humans but …….
I sat alone.
Sometimes it is good to do that just to see who decides to sit with me – 
it opens up many different contacts.

Jacky joined me.
He’s from Senegal, with us from the YMCA for one year as a full-time volunteer.
We were joined later by Mr. Singh.
We talked about lots of things.

The war looming.
Me leaving the YMCA in two weeks and 
lots of miscellaneous brief exchanges with passing staff and residents.
Jacky was quiet.
He often stays silent following conversational exchange.

“What are you thinking Jacky?” I ask.
He paused, gentle as he does.
He said in a measured pace.............

“It’s like losing your father.
It’s like becoming an orphan.
Not just for me,
but for everyone,
the whole YMCA”.

He was referring to my departure,
my leaving the YMCA -
this precious community,
I felt those feelings
and I felt blessed.
I was moved.



Pip Wilson









BHP

A Kiss is just a Kiss - could you do this?

 🅱🅴🅰🆄🆃🅸🅵🆄🅻  Fathers Day



Saturday, June 16, 2018

BLOB FOOTBALL PITCH - FOOTBALL FIELD. Where are you? Spectator or on the pitch?





Blob Pitch 

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BHP

BLOB CHILD*TEEN*ADULT - where are you = feelings? behaviour? Resposibility?


I don't like the term 'less privileged' .................



I don't like the term
'less privileged'
OR
'under privileged'

Deprivation is a more accurate term = Deprived

As if the starting point is
PRIVILEGE
when the reality,
the baseline is, deprivation
for so many in the UK
and more-so around the world.

(DEPRIVED = LOSS
Taken away
by the privileged......)


















¸.•*¨*•♪you♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸.•*¨*•♪are♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸.•*¨*•♪beautiful♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥

Click here to glimpse
what I do, love to do::







Dance like no-one is watching
★Sing like no-one is listening
★and
Love like you have never been hurt.