I cannot tell you the trauma that these young people have been through at such an early age.
I am talking about those aged 16/17 and some a little older.
I feel sad now
I hope, you will sense my feelings.
I have, so many times, felt / experienced real violence
and threats of violence for about four/five hours.
I have been tense all that time.
Then I enter recovery……….
Reminds me of the years working in East London with youth gangs,
the uncontrolled violence and even the pleasure from it.
I hate it.
Yes I feel sad. Reflective.
I must reflect when I have feelings......
I have used the Blob Tree* with a group of BHP's**.
It is without a doubt, the most known and used tool from any of my books.
(see www.blobtree.com )
And here is a contrast as I work with a group,
all vulnerable young humans
so many with a hard surface.
So many numbing their real feeling
for fear of revealing their real vulnerabilities.
This group session processed like this:-
the usual messing about at the front end - then
I ask a Question::
I ask a Question::
'which Blob on the Tree is your feelings now?'
Only a short pause - then the most mashed up human spoke, and said....
he was mashed.
then, following that lead,
the others now had permission to be
the others now had permission to be
honest = self revelation.
Some were feeling isolated -
expressing those feelings,
others tumbling words
out of touch with the tree questions
but about their life -
real honesty flooded,
real feelings.
The next was asking which Blob would they like to be.
The ones hugging were popular
the ones in touch/touching each other each other.
Climbing the tree,
helping others into the tree,
fantastic sharing.
The process ended with a message
that we need to 'own' the facts/reality of what has happened.
We cannot change the past just one little bit
BUT,
we can plan and aim for the future.
A better future.
A group of people being beautiful together
and I have the joy of being there.
Me.......................... a human becoming...........................
Do you know how I feel?
This feeling stuff comes out and then,
it does not end there,
it then moves on to reflection and into:-
strategy
and
priorities
which means thought and action.
* = the Blob Tree, you can download a copy HERE if you want but not to put it into cyber space
** = BHP means 'beautiful human person’.
I FEEL - how do you feel?
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