Sunday, June 05, 2016

Becoming Questions Number 7 - please consider sharing your answer?

Becoming Questions 
Number 7

I am posting Becoming Questions for YOU
and everyone I can reach via my website and social media.

The response has been wondrous.
Everyday people
from many different nations
backgrounds/ages/contexts …….
being willing to be Becoming
by being honest with themselves
and sharing deep thoughts/feelings/experiences for you all.

I ask that you email me ideally (My email::  see CONTACT on my
but I will of course welcome your Q7 by any means of communication.

This week  a little video -less than a minute.
If you can view it
and then read my question?

U2 wrote this song for Frank Sinatra
but he died before he could record it.
Here Matt Dusk sings::

If it is not working
Try 30 seconds of this one
(same video only via YouTube

Two shots of happy, one shot of sad

You think I'm no good, well I know I've been bad

Took you to a place, now you can't get back

Two shots of happy, one shot of sad

Walked together down a dead end street

We were mixing the bitter with the sweet

Don't try to figure out what we might of had
Just two shots of happy, one shot of sad
I'm just a singer, some say a sinner
Rolling the dice, not always a winner
You say I've been lucky, well hell I've made my own
Not part of the crowd, but not feeling alone
Under pressure, but not bent out of shape
Surrounded, we always found an escape
Drove me to drink, but hey that's not all bad
Two shots of happy, one shot of sad
Guess I've been greedy, all of my life
Greedy with my children, my lovers, my wife
Greedy for the good things as well as the bad
Two shots of happy, one shot of sad
Maybe it's just talk, saloon singing
The chairs are all stacked, the swinging's stopped swinging
You say I hurt you, you put the finger on yourself
Then after you did it, you came crying for my help
Two shots of happy, one shot of sad
I'm not complaining, baby I'm glad
You call it a compromise, well what's that
Two shots of happy, one shot of sad
Two shots of happy, one shot of sad.

The Question::
Can you google the whole of your life
from birth to the present day?
Sharing two shots of Happy One Shot of sad?
A HAPPY first
A SAD Second
A HAPPY to end with?
And as always - WHY did you choose these three?

Thank you for considering.
I hope you will share
Confidentially - in your name or NO NAME.

This is my ANSWER::

Many of these #BECOMING questions come out of years of leading group work in hostels where young people live because they have no better place to live. From Care. From Prison. From Street. From Rows at home - if they ever had a home.
Depending on the climate of trust, many take the opportunity to share real deep (hidden) experiences/feeling because they have never had an opening before.
I guess that is what I am aiming at with these #Becoming Questions. I believe it is important to share when we have the chance because bottled up emotions can damage their container.
Part of becoming is joining the dots between our outer exposed/known life and our inner being.

Can I ask you a question?
Becoming Question Number 7
‘Will you share two shots of happy and one shot of sad?

Here are my Two shots of happy, one shop of sad. 
Like you I guess we have lots Sad/Happy in or short or longer life. 
So my Happy x 2 and Sad x 1 - I will choose my first 
HAPPY when I was asked to be a leader when as a 15 year old. Undeservingly be I was a disruptive member of a youth group. I was valued, accepted, encouraged and affirmed. 
SAD - I never knew my Dad who died in his early 50’s when I was about 16/17. I knew and felt his volcanic temper. His leather belt left marks on all four sons. I never got to know him - never had a conversation I can remember. HAPPY - I will choose one more recent experience but not choosing the many I had & have with our beautiful family including our two Granddaughters (Love em). I have visited Armenia twice working with young people. The second visit changed my life because the experience convinced me to leave my job, as leader of the Romford YMCA community, and go freelance working with groups & teams Nationwide and Worldwide. 
Growth does not reside in a place called comfortable so Happy is always a place of stretch and challenge for me.