We could have been labeled
'Residential Social Workers' back in the day.
At
26 me
&
22 MrsBeautiful
we became houseparents in a Young Offenders Residential School/Unit.
15 Manchester boys
all sent by the courts.
But we were amateurs
we were untrained
but
we had to learn on our feet.
We had only been married a year and we sold up to change our work
into a Mission.
We got these roles because of volunteer Youth Work in St Helens.
But we hadn't’ a clue about inner city deprivation - even basic adolescent needs.
Since I left Pilkington Glass Research laboratory
we have lived and worked in partnership
in five different residential projects - each unique.
St Helens, Cheshire, Inner City London & outer East London
EACH ONE a stretch.
Since 2003 I have been a freelance - a Trainer & Group Worker & Author.
Inadequacy - always.
When I flash back I reflect ………..
On mainly my weaknesses in these roles.
The young offenders unit being one.
I wish I knew what I know now!
As I have said many times::
I never intended to be this age
it just came with experience.
I had no clue how these teens (14 to 17) had lived.
No clue as to their parenting and life lived & survival.
During the night I downloaded via Apple Books
The new Lemn Sissay’s book about being raised IN CARE.
Reading only page one so far -
it raises big issues in me.
I have been on this journey of learning -
learning about emotions neglect childhood damage and
Emotions …………….
WE CAN SEE A PERSONS BEHAVIOUR BUT
WE CAN’T SEE THEIR JOURNEY.
THIS WAS ON PAGE ONE OF HIS BOOK::
The book will tear at my gut.
But I want that.
I need that.
All of us have so much to learn:
We don't know
what we don't know::
In terms of
sensitivity
awareness
empathy
valuing
communication
loving ……….
BHP
