Monday, August 12, 2019

Tired, Hungry, Lonely Angry, leaves us more vulnerable. Me too.







Feelings get to the emotional part of our brain 
twice as quick
as they get to our thinking part of our brain.

That is the reason why we respond
and often regret it.

Examples

a 'put down' to you.
Like
Someone saying 
'you made me feel .....'
A raised voice to you.
A sarcastic remark to you.

When I am tired I am most vulnerable.
I think the messages
to my brain
run slower then.

Tired, 
Hungry, 
Lonely 
Angry, 
leaves us more vulnerable.
Me too.

Emotional Literacy is a neglected part
of our human development.
It can be learned 
just as 
arithmetic
playing rugby
writing 
spelling.

'Just as we are' 
and
'this is me'
'take me or leave me'
is not good enough.

We need to be on the road of 
Discovery
Change
Learning
so that the emotional messages
trigger the thinking bits
before we kick off.

1975/1985 was my peak of 
working with Gangs.
Also of my learning about this stuff.
I had to
to survive.

It was then that I realised
that these beautiful humans,
not so beautiful in terms of behaviour,
did not know how to manage 
their emotions.
They pulled shutters down around them - NUMBING!
or
they exploded like capped volcanoes. 

Capping is no good.
Controlling is no good.

Managing them is good
expressing them is good - 
without kicking someones head in.

Interactions with humans of late -
hits me just the same.
Wrecked relationships.
Surging anger.
Inability to analise self.
Absence of ability
to consider options.
No thought of options - 
WHY?
Because the feelings tell you to 'get'
the other human.

They want to get the other person
With 'words'
if you work in an office.
With a tirade of 'abuse' 
if you work in a factory.
Smashing someone with a 
Glass
Knife
Shooter
if you are on the edge ........

If we do some analysis
of behaviour
ours
others
and
THAT is like a good work-out
in the Emotional Intelligence department.

Let's get fit together eh?




Pip Wilson