1 I am not ok ................ you are not ok
2 I am not ok ................ you are ok
3 I am ok ...................... you are not ok
4 I'm ok ........................ you're ok
.... each of the four are life positions.
I think we operate one of the above with everyone we meet
not in words - often
but definitely non-verbal language.
The worst one is::
1 I am not ok ................ you are not ok
= I don't feel good about myself and I don't like you either.
The best one, the wholistic one, the one to strive for is::
4 I'm ok ........................ you're ok
I accept myself
I accept you
I accept me with my beautiful imperfection
I accept you with your
beautiful imperfection.
Because this all comes from within
which manages our feelings
language
non-verbal language
attitudes
actions
smiles
laughter
positives
- our starting place is with
the human we will
be spending
the rest of our lives with.
There is a big item here about love
entwining the whole process
from without
to within
and then coming out ................
.
