Friday, September 16, 2016

Reaching out to connect and aiming to form helping relationships .....

I meet a new human.
I want to connect.

Within a few moments of meeting I suggested 
that this persons life was worth a book to tell the story.
I moved on to say a movie and then got excited with the person 
as I asked if the movie of the persons life would be an;
action movie
love and romance
kick box
...... need I go on.

Another young human.
I want to connect with.
Build a helping relationship ......

I was surprised a little with this BHP. 
It has been a long time. 
Curled in a ball emotionally.

I always have the principle of saying hello 
even I am always blanked or rebuffed in some way.

There is extreme needs displayed here. 
Loving the unlovely comes to mind. 
I don't worry about him. 
I don't know him. 
I am not responsible 'for' him and have, sadly,
I have had no opportunities to be responsible 'to' him.

(I hold this principle in my life
It is a principle of survival
It is:: 'I am responsible to people
not for people - otherwise I would crack-up myself.)
The person who jumped to death in front of the train today.
I did not know.
I am sad, but it did not cut me to the heart.
I do feel more and deeply so, for the young male human 
who cannot return to his own community 
because of the actualized violence.

They tell me, or speak while I am there, 
of the messy drugs and the messy relationships 
which they play bumper cars with.

And then there is whispers close to the ears as they communicate 
the things really significantly not for me ……… 
and strangely, shortly afterwards, disappear into secret group places.

In a strange way I feel we have to 
hug the drugs,
hug the violence, 
hug the foul language, 
hug the loudness, 
hug the alcoholic drenched lives.

If those most ugly things hindered the hugging ……. 
if we let those exposed roots of their human condition hinder the hugging ……. 
we will be ignoring their cries of pain explicit in behaviours. 
I feel we need to hug their beauty into life and, 
as one of the youngest women said to me today, 
"don't we get so much from helping others"

"In giving we receive" says the bible book.


"But don't confuse caring for weakness
You can't put that label on me
The truth is my weapon of mass protection
And I believe truth sets you free"

Willie Nelson's song, 
'What Ever Happened To Peace On Earth'.