........... I am away from home working and clicking a pc which makes a mac man feel sick. Bit like going to B&Q or a Garden centre ....... there I go, feeling sick as I mention these pictures of hell .................
I once gave a talk and mentioned this sort of thing and lost the whole audience! For some strange reason, some people get off on things like that. Give me the concrete and the iMac anyday.
Have been working of late with a group who were disruptive to say the least. Sometimes chemicals. Sometimes the old fashioned, and legal, alcohol. Sometimes a restlessness that comes from insecurity and tension.
I cannot but welcome them and accept them ...... the group process is always less important than the value of the human person. My mission is to aim for self determined development not order or control. I need them to feel. I need them to feel good about some part of their life without cocaine. I need them to come again, enter this safe space and relax more. Give more. Hear more from other group humans and to soak in that life like a sponge with water. Hmmm.
I know many have come from homes were they cannot be managed. Homes which they have rejected from. Homes were there is inadequate parenting. Broken homes in more ways than one.
Adults they know are full of 'shoulds' and 'aughts' have rejected or been rejected. Strong or/and fragile young people want to make their own way and by 15 have often given up on parents. Even in 'good' homes. They need, in my view, accepting parent and parents who will allow them to be 'free to be free'.
It is not easy being a parent. Sometimes horrible. Sometimes full of pain. Such feelings of failure - sometimes.
I have apologized to my Sheilas for failing them through my tiredness or through my inadequate self. What happens now is a fab vibe were I feel valued and respected by them and I love it - and them! They seem to manage my weaknesses so well. Still tell me off for certain mannerisms, still pull their faces when I wear the wrong things ................ But there is that little phone call so so often which delights hmmmm ........ A sloppy moment.
So when a group goes bad ....... I accept it and pull out just one moment of beauty ................ Of late it has just been a moment when the group stills in body language and facial expression ........... Some deep moment shared by all. That is worth it. That is fantastic. That experience will stay with them because it touches the soul ..................
Thanx for listening .............. and for you ........ allow your soul to be touched .............. if you can take the risk .....
You are beautiful to extreme ........... even though you do not feel it ......... or have around you some people who remind you of this.
bbeautiful
bbecoming
bhp
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